Two months ago I came home and found my wife (33F) in bed with a fellow co-worker (33M). I (33M) moved out the following week and now it seems like everyone is mad at me for some reason

My wife of 8 years, and I are kinda separated after I caught her cheating. We haven't filed paper work yet, but I report it as separated since I no longer live there. <br><br>I went to work one day, and when I came home early cause I didn't feel good, I walked in on my wife screwing some guy. I recognized the guy and knew of him. I would pick her up from work sometimes and I saw him around. I asked her who the hell it was, and she tells me that it's Coop, a co-worker at her office. I asked her how long has this affair been going on, she tells me she didn't want to tell me because she knew I'd be mad. That it was just once or twice but she couldn't tell me cause she knew she'd get in trouble.<br><br>I didn't bother sticking around anymore and I just turned around and got out of there. I called my mom and brother and told them what happened and they told me to come over to my mom's. I did, and that night my wife was calling me non stop and crying and begging for forgiveness, and that she loved me and that it didn't matter and it just meant nothing to her and that she just messed up and could she just have another chance. I told her to stop calling me or I'd report it to the police and I'll get a restraining order on her. I did block her number after that.<br><br>The following week, I went back to the house to get my stuff and she was there and she tried to talk to me and I just ignored her and I told her she meant nothing to me and that she could go live with Coop since he was so important. I got my stuff together and eventually moved into my own place.<br><br>I told my family about what happened to my wife and me, and while they were upset, they weren't really mad at her. My mom told me that I shouldn't be this hard on her, cause she's still family, and my sister said that I shouldn't have told my wife to go live with Coop cause that was harsh. My brother is the only one who's been on my side the whole time and even he told me to think about our family and not burn bridges. I was confused and asked them what they meant and they told me that I should've let it go. That everyone messes up. They kept emphasizing that I should look at myself before judging her for messing up. I don't think I did anything wrong though.<br><br>My wife's side of the family is a different story though. They're all on my side and They've all been very supportive. They too think it's ridiculous that the rest of my family hasn't dropped my ex yet, but they're also worried that I'm by myself. Just by myself helping myself.<br><br>What's more is that my wife is still trying to get in contact with me. She's been calling me nonstop for weeks begging me to give her another chance. She's been crying and pleading to me that she's really sorry and that she loves me. She told me that she's been heartbroken these past two months and that she wishes we could be together. But I don't think I can do that. I just don't know why everyone is blaming me. I didn't even cuss at her. I just ignored her when she tried to talk to me and that's it.<br><br>&#x200B;<br><br>EDIT: Wow. I didn't expect so many responses. Thank you so much everyone! I felt like I was going crazy or something. I'm reading through them all right now and they're all very helpful information. Thank you so much again! I really appreciate it :)