My husband is a gynecologist and it’s really bothered me that he won’t switch specialties when I asked him to.

Update- I ended up being unable to call my husband because my post had blown up and I was overwhelmed by the calls. I am very appreciative of the kind words and will try my best to write back to all of you when I am ready. Thank you all for the support because it’s been a long, rough road. I’m going to send this post to my husband along with a list of therapists in the area and plan on telling him that I want a divorce if therapy does not work. Just having something in writing is helping me feel much more confident and emboldened because of all of your encouragement and will be buying a plane ticket to go home as soon as possible. Thank you all again because you have seriously helped me so much. <br><br>——-<br><br>I met my husband in college, and he was the president of student council and one of the presidents of Hillel on campus, so the first thing I noticed about him was how gentle and kind he was in everything he touched. He also happens to be a very handsome man and was one of the first men who made me feel confident and beautiful. Fast forward to now and he is completing his residency as a gynecologist. He’s very close to completing his residency and I’m getting a little closer to telling him that I think there’s something wrong with him being a gynecologist and that he should try to switch specialties. I’m a little worried because he is so close to completing his residency and I’m not sure if he would be able to switch, but I do know at this point that I don’t want to be with a gynecologist. The thought of him all day in that position eloquently juggling multiple women’s private parts is sickening to me. I’m planning on asking him if I can call some hospitals in the area to see if this is a possibility with his credentials. I’m a little worried he will end up resenting me because I’m taking him away from the specialty that he chose, so I’m planning on asking him if he would be willing to take a pay cut if I would make up the difference. I’m also planning on asking him if he would be willing to work in a department that is mostly men. I’m pretty sure that’s not a thing, but I know that I’m not comfortable with him dealing with so many vagina’s all day. I want to let him know that I trust him completely and that I’m just uncomfortable with the specialty that he’s in and would rather he find another one where he would have much less exposure to women. I’m not sure how he’s going to take this, but I know this is what I have to do and I want him to be happy so hopefully everything works out. I’m planning on telling him as soon as possible because I’m just not comfortable with the idea of him being in that position anymore.