My heart is breaking for my husband

I have a confession to make. I want to divorce my husband. 25 years of marriage is coming to an end. No affair, no abuse. Only a long history of me constantly disappointed that he won’t initiate anything, not going to the gym, gaining weight, saying he’ll do something to help me and then not doing it. Arguing about TV channel and whether the thermostat is too hot or too cold and on and on. <br><br>It’s not about the big things. He is a good man. It’s about him doing absolutely zero on his own initiative. He waits for me to start something and then joins in. He didn’t make my life easier. He made it harder because I have to think of everything and do it with him or it won’t happen. <br><br>I have thought I could have done better. I stayed for our daughter, for what little money he makes, for the fear of being alone. But our daughter is grown with kids of her own and we can make ends meet without him. The little money he makes will be more than made up for without the emotional toll he has taken on me. <br><br>I’m sad and angry and hurt. I wish I could have left years ago but I truly felt I had no choice. I am so glad to be leaving and so sad that I’ve been so unhappy for so long. <br><br>Tonight we will go to sleep as usual. In the morning we will go to breakfast as usual. He will go to work and come home early and I will give him the letter I’ve written telling him how I feel and what I want. <br><br>He doesn’t know this is coming. I have no idea how he will react but I know it will be bad. I am dreading this and I am relieved. He will be heartbroken and I can’t do anything to help him. His poor heart will be broken. I am so sorry for him.