My (31M) wife (28F) uttered another hurtful phrase, in front of family.

I've been with my wife for 5 years, and we married 3 years ago. We have two daughters, Emma (3) and Lily (1). <br><br>My wife is a medical professional, and working in a medical field is often a busy and challenging job. She works at a local hospital and most days, she comes home very tired and overwhelmed. On top of her job, she is also the primary carer for our two young children. <br><br>Recently, my wife took our girls to a medical professional friend of hers. She offered her some advice on how to soothe Lily when she's fussy. After the visit, my wife told me that this friend of hers said that Lily looked very big and heavy for only being one. She suggested we take Lily for a check up just in case there was something wrong with her. This sent my wife into a spiral of anxiety and she was convinced that Lily was unhealthy. I tried to reassure her that Lily was just a big baby, but she was adamant that she needed to be checked out. <br><br>She took Lily to see a doctor friend of hers, and when she came home, she had some bad news for me. She said that the doctor told her that Lily was "the biggest baby she had ever seen" and that she was "obese". This made my wife very upset and she immediately blamed me for making Lily this way. <br><br>I was shocked and told her that I didn't think that was true at all. I told her that Lily was just a big baby and there was absolutely nothing wrong with her. I reassured her that our daughter was perfectly healthy, but she wouldn't listen. She was so convinced that Lily was overweight that she stopped breastfeeding and bottle feeding her breastmilk, and instead switched her to almond milk. <br><br>I was horrified when I found this out. I knew that almond milk wasn't good for babies at all, especially at Lily's age. I confronted my wife and told her that she was doing harm to our daughter and that I thought she might be going crazy. She got very defensive and told me that I needed to let her raise our children. <br><br>Fast forward a few days, we attended a family gathering. My wife's mother, father, and two brothers were there. When I was in the kitchen making some food, my wife came in and demanded that I stop making "fatty foods" for our children. She told me that I was making them fat and that I was doing it deliberately. I told her that wasn't true and she needed to stop. She started getting louder and told me, in front of everyone, "If you keep force feeding our children, you will turn them into the fat slobby pigs you are!" I was absolutely mortified. <br><br>Everyone was staring at me and I was ruined. I didn't say anything and just walked away. I don't know what to do anymore. She's been saying these really hurtful things to me a lot lately, and I don't know how much more I can take. She's starting to destroy me as a person. I feel so worthless and depressed. <br><br>How can I make her stop saying these hurtful things? Or should I just leave her? I really don't know. I'm so torn. I love my wife and our daughters so much, but I don't know if I can keep living like this.<br><br>ETA: I just wanted to add a little context. My wife and I both had difficult upbringings. Both of us had parents who uttered hurtful phrases to us when we were kids. I'm not saying that this is an excuse for her behavior, but it's a part of who we are. Also, I do have a little bit of weight, but I'm working on it and I'm not trying to feed my children unhealthy foods. I just want to make it clear that I'm not trying to feed them junk at all. <br><br>UPDATE: Thank you all so much for your kind words and advice. I really appreciate it. I think it's clear I need to get my wife some help, and maybe even myself. Let's hope things turn out okay for everyone.