Members, what are some things you’re not sorry for?

I’m not sorry I didn’t turn my son into a god damned girl to please a-backwards-assed society<br><br>I’m not sorry I have a job<br><br>I’m not sorry I don’t clean house<br><br>I’m not sorry I don’t cook meals<br><br>I’m not sorry I’m hinting I’ve raised a functional adult, who will not become a burden on his father and mother<br><br>I’m not sorry for aborting the pregnancy that would have ruined my life<br><br>I’m not sorry for buying the clothes that I buy<br><br>I’m not sorry for being overweight, or I’m not sorry for not being fat enough<br><br>I’m not sorry for having a good paying job<br><br>I’m not sorry for being single and living my best life.<br><br>I’m not sorry for being married before I was 18.<br><br>I’m not sorry for getting pregnant before I was 18.<br><br>I’m not sorry that I’m beautiful<br><br>I’m not sorry that I’m ugly<br><br>I’m not sorry for being in therapy<br><br>I’m not sorry for being a goat mom.<br><br>I’m not sorry for choosing to be a stay at home mom.<br><br>I’m not sorry I’m not happy being at home with my children… I’m not sorry I’m not happy at work. I’m not sorry that my happiness is not contingent on my family<br><br>I’m not sorry I don’t have kids.<br><br>I’m not sorry I don’t want kids.<br><br>I’m not sorry I want more kids.<br><br>I’m not sorry I cried in public<br><br>I’m not sorry I have anxiety.<br><br>I’m not sorry I have a mental illness.<br><br>I’m not sorry I’m a witch.<br><br>I’m not sorry I’m not in a “stable” career.<br><br>I’m not sorry I’m not in a stable relationship.<br><br>I’m not sorry I don’t want a white, middle class life.<br><br>I’m not sorry I don’t want to make six figures.<br><br>I’m not sorry I’m living paycheck to paycheck.<br><br>I’m not sorry I’m a little bit overweight, or a little bit too thin<br><br>I’m not sorry I don’t like a particular food<br><br>I’m not sorry I don’t like a particular activity.<br><br>So if you feel a vibe here or better yet, if you feel no vibe at all, make sure you’re handling yourself right! You are beautiful. You are worthy. You are strong. My darling, you are not in the wrong for choosing to live your best life.<br><br>Edit: 2/10/2020<br><br>As of tonight, this post is at 2,500 comments. I’m overwhelmed with happy and at a loss for words. My intention with this was not to create a space for our-backlash, or to create a space for negativity, or to create a space for your-shit-attitude. There’s enough of that in here. <br><br>I’ve been on this subreddit, as a member, for over a year, and as a moderator for almost 6 months. And in that time I‘ve seen women openly excluded from feminist circles because “they don’t act the way women should act” or “they’re too much like men”. I see men openly mocked on this subreddit, even if they hold the same beliefs as us. I see women who are overweight and underweight being shamed on this subreddit, because they don’t act the way “a woman should act” if they’re overweight, and they don’t look the way “a woman should look” if they’re underweight. I see people openly shamed for their career, or lack thereof, and I see people shamed for having kids, for not wanting kids, for getting married young, for living life the way that they see fit. <br><br>The point of this was to create a space for women, for individuals, for anyone who feels marginalized in any way, in a space to be not sorry. For women, men, and non binary, to feel not sorry for being in therapy, for choosing to be a stay at home parent, for choosing not to have children, for choosing to have a large career, for choosing to be beautiful, for choosing to be ugly.<br><br>I’m happy this blew up but I feel a little disheartened that the message clearly didn’t come across the way I had intended. I understand my own hypocrisy in suggesting that this was the wrong reaction. If I had to bet, I’d say close to 90% of the comments on this post were from men, and a good amount of those were negative. But I also understand that this post was for you. And if you needed it, I’m glad I provided it. I just wish that you would have been more thoughtful in your comments to the rest of us, as we are on this subreddit for a reason, to support one another. <br><br>To all the women, and to all the men, I am so grateful for all of your comments and your support. Thank you all so much.<br><br>Edit 2: 2/10/2020<br><br>I will be pinning this at the end of each month as I feel it is an important message for all of us to remember, and to spread to everyone. If you have any concerns or questions, please send them via PM.<br>Edit 3: 2/10/2020<br><br>This post is now locked, as we are at nearly 1,000 comments in less than 24 hours. That is an overwhelming response and I need time to go through all of the comments without being on my phone all day. If you would like to talk, or if you would like to chat, please PM me or any other moderator. If you would like to share your story, please PM me or any other moderator. We love you all, and we’re all so happy this post resonated with all of you.