TW: this is a sad post, please be advised. How I was betrayed by my own gender

I am a woman, and when I found this sub I finally felt like I was a part of something. I felt like I was with people I could trust. You don't know how much this sub means to me.<br><br>The other day I posted here asking for advice. A man I had just met asked me out and I said yes, but when he learned I was transgender he quickly became angry and called me a "freak". When I told my mother about it, she did not believe me. She told me it didn't happen, that I made it up. I felt broken. I posted here and the wonderful people in this sub told me it wasn't my fault. Many people shared their own experiences and offered me the kindest words.<br><br>The next morning I checked back on my post. A certain male user saw my post and PM'd me. He said he was gay and wanted to talk. I was confused, but flattered that he came to me. He was nice and asked me questions about myself. He told me he was in the military, and showed me pictures of all of his gear. I didn't really like it, but he seemed nice and I was happy to be talking to somebody.<br><br>He started flirting with me, and I politely told him I wasn't interested. He continued to. I ignored him as much as I could. He kept flirting and I told him I didn't want to talk anymore.<br><br>He was angry. All of a sudden he wasn't being nice anymore and told me I was a "freak" too. He said he didn't know I was trans and that I should have told him early. I was horrified. Just like I feared, he was lying about being gay and just wanted to have sex with me. I felt betrayed, hurt and scared. I blocked him immediately and put more restrictions on my PMs.<br><br>I thought about posting here again, but I was too sad. I felt betrayed by my own gender. I felt hurt that a woman's space, which I thought was safe, was actually not. It hurt so much. I loved the people here and finally felt like I was part of something. Now, I felt broken.<br><br>&#x200B;<br><br>Yesterday, I saw a post about a trans woman who was killed. I broke down in tears. I thought about the man who lied to me, I thought about myself and felt sad. I thought about every woman in this sub who has been hurt. This is a woman's space, but we still aren't safe.<br><br>I don't know what to do. I'm sad, agitated, hurt and upset. I just want to feel safe with my own gender. I want to feel like I'm not going to be hurt when I'm around women.<br><br>&#x200B;<br><br>EDIT: I apologize if the title of this post is confusing. By my "own gender", I mean the same gender as the people in this sub. I am transgender and the people in this sub are the gender I identify as. By "my own gender", I mean the people in this sub and myself.<br><br>EDIT 2: I apologize for my English. I am an ESL speaker and I try my best. Any confusion is my own fault.<br><br>EDIT 3: Some people in the comments think I am referring to women in general. I am not referring to women, I am referring to the people in this sub. If I was talking about women, I would have simply said "women". Please just read the post thoroughly before making a comment.