My husband is pushing me to agree to make my sister our surrogate using the medical flag udder protocol even though I have said no several times already.

My husband and I have been struggling with infertile issues for quite a while and my husband asked his sister in law to be on the lookout for any prospect surrogates in our area. She brought home a card for our local center for women, “Udder Medical Services”. My husband said it can’t hurt to call and see if they know of any women who want to be surrogates and get some more information. I wasn’t too happy but I let him call them. The lady on the phone seemed very friendly and told us that she thought she could find us a surrogate. She said she would call me shortly yourself. <br><br>I was waiting all day for her to call but she never did so I called her back myself. She said she had a woman who was willing to be a surrogate and she thought we should meet her. I asked her what kind of surrogacy she was offering since we obviously couldn’t pay her much. She seemed a little taken aback and asked me how much we were thinking of paying. I said I didn’t know, not very much, we are struggling to have a child of our own. She said she would be able to pay this lady a substantial sum of money, enough for her to be able to buy her own house if she wanted to. I asked her how it worked and she said they would give her a pack of birth control pills every month, along with a blue pill to take with them if she and her husband were happening to get intimate one of those months. I asked her how we would know if the blue pill was taken and she said they would give her injections every month to prevent pregnancy if the blue pill had not been taken. I asked her if that sounded fair since it would leave no room for sexual mistake, and she said it did but that it had worked for them quite well so far. <br><br>My husband and I had a long talk about this and we decided that we would like to meet her and see if this would be something we would like. She set up a meeting for us with the prospective surrogate at their clinic. My sister was the only person there and she was very sweet. She told us how much she wanted to be a surrogate mother, that it was something she had dreamed of since she was a little girl. She told us how her own mother had been able to carry her aunt’s twins and how much joy that had brought her family. She said she hoped that she could be able to do the same thing for our family. I asked her why she wanted to be a surrogate now if she had never actually done it before and she told me that she had tried to talk her husband into letting her be a surrogate for years, but he never would. He told her that it was too dangerous and he didn’t want to lose her. I asked her what changed his mind and she said he met the director of the Udder Medical Services clinic at a party. I don’t know why that would change his mind but I didn’t ask. She said that the director explained to him how the birth control pills and blue pill protocol they used to select surrogates worked. And he was very impressed by the way that they could ensure that the surrogate would actually end up pregnant. And he told her that he thought she should do it. I asked her why she wanted to use the select surrogacy protocol instead of just trying to get pregnant naturally. And she told me that they had tried that for years, but they never could. They always ended up pregnant whether the blue pill had been taken or not. She said they decided to use the select surrogacy protocol because they always ended up resenting the child they had naturally. They always blamed the child for taking up the resources in the household that they thought should have gone to themselves. So they decided that having a child of their own wasn’t as important to them as they thought it was. They realized they had been foolish to think they could handle having children. They realized that children are too much work and they didn’t want that. <br><br>My husband said he thought that was very selfish and that we shouldn’t use the select surrogacy protocol. We told her we would think about it. She asked if she could talk to my husband alone for a minute and I didn’t want to do that so I said no. She looked disappointed but she didn’t push it. My husband asked her if she really thought he would make me into one of these surrogates since we wanted children of our own. She said she thought he should because she knew he really wanted children of his own but he also knew that I wasn’t capable of carrying a child. I looked at my husband and he was nodding in agreement with her statement about me. I was furious. I told him I wasn’t some defective creature that he could experiment on, I was his wife, a person, a mother to his child. I didn’t repeat herself but he just stared at me as if he didn’t hear me. I told the three of you to leave. We made an appointment for the following day.<br><br>The following day we went to the clinic. The woman who directed it was there. She talked to us for a while about how it all worked, about how select surrogacy was the best option for people who really wanted a child but couldn’t have one of their own. She told us that they had used it quite a bit and it had worked out well for all of the parties involved. My husband seemed very interested in it and I could tell he was already planning to talk me into it. She said it was really simple, we would choose a surrogate, give her the pills and blue pill, and if she ever did happen to get pregnant we would just take the injections to stop it from happening. She said it would be easy to control if we just stuck to the protocol. My husband asked her why it had never worked out for them and she was apologetic. She said they were very careless people and they always ended up taking chances that they shouldn’t. She said they were very lucky she and her clinic were there to help them, otherwise they might never end up with a child. I asked if she had any women who would be willing to be surrogates and she said she did. She told me that I should be grateful that my sister offered to be one. She said she knew I couldn’t carry a child so someone had to offer. I was angry but I didn’t say anything.<br><br>My husband asked her how we should choose which woman to use and she told him to let her handle it. She said she had already picked out someone for us. I asked if it was my sister and she said yes. I told my sister I didn’t want her to do it, I didn’t want to use the select surrogacy protocol, I didn’t want her to take the pills. She looked shocked and she started to ask me why. I told her I was sick of her inserting herself into my life and interfering in things she doesn’t know anything about. I told her I had been trying to have a child of my own for years and I didn’t need her help. She looked sad and she told me she just wanted to be a grandmother. She said she had always wanted kids but she couldn’t have them. She said she hoped she could help us and I told her she wouldn’t. My husband told her that we would do it, just please don’t tell anyone else, he didn’t want the whole family knowing. She said she wouldn’t, I told her I still didn’t want her to do it and I walked out of there.<br><br>I was so angry. I didn’t want my husband to do this to me. I told him I still didn’t want to do it and he started getting mad at me. He told me I didn’t have a choice anymore, he was going to do it and I would just have to deal with it. I told him I would leave him if he did. He told me no you won’t, we’re married for life. I said he was wrong, I wasn’t. He said I was scared and I wouldn’t leave him. I told him I would, I would take him to the ends of the earth and dump his ass if he did this to me. He told me I didn’t really want to leave him, he knew I didn’t. He said he was only saying those things to make me feel better, he knew I wasn’t serious. I told him I was serious. He told me I wasn’t going to leave him to be impregnanted by my sister, he knew that. I told him I wouldn’t be impregnanted, I would make sure of that. And I left.<br><br>I’ve been home for a couple of days and he hasn’t been. I’ve called his cell and he doesn’t answer. I went to his office and he wasn’t there. I checked our home and he wasn’t there. I finally found him at the clinic. I asked him what he was doing there and he said he was there to make the arrangements for me to be a surrogate mother. I asked him how he was going to make me and he said he would be signing me up for the pills. I asked him if he forgot I told him I didn’t want to do it. He told me I didn’t mean that, I would be happy to do it for him. I asked him why he thought I would do something like that to my sister and he told me I would do anything for him. I asked him what he meant and he told me I would do anything to make him happy. I told him that wasn’t true, I wouldn’t let him turn my sister into a pregnancy factory. I asked him if he was still at the clinic and he said yes. I told