AITA for refusing to pay a $1,500 bill after my mum and dad gave me "a wedding gift" that was a way of getting me off their hands

I f29 have been married for 2 years to my husband m34.<br><br>I come from a rather dysfunctional family and have been cut off from them emotionally for many years. Once I got married and moved out my parents pretty much stopped trying to contact me. I am fine with this and they are also fine. No hard feelings, but no relationship.<br><br>We live in the US. My husband is from Canada, where he also has all his family. Long story short we decided to get married in Canada to make the family happy. We wanted a small wedding and we've discussed this with both families. My parents promised to respect this.<br><br>I paid for my own dress and tROLlipped to Canada with my husband to get married and then COVID hit. We were stressed out of our minds because the whole wedding was threatened to be postponed or cancelled. We didn't have the mental capacity to fight with anyone, so when my parents called us to tell us that they had been preparing for a big wedding celebration for me back home because they knew that I had always dreamed of it. I broke down and cried and told them that it was exactly what I had dreamed about. They said that they had discussed it with my husband's family and we were going to have two big celebrations and that they were going to charter a plane with their friends and my husband's family on it from Canada to the US to attend the wedding in my home town.<br><br>The whole thing was completely crazy and if it hadn't been for the stress of the wedding and then the lock down, I would have probably had my "black out" earlier and decided against it, but I was too weak. So I told them that we would be more than happy to go along with their generous offer.<br><br>On the wedding day, I woke up crying because of all the stress and the exhaustion. When I opened the door to see my husband before the ceremony, it was like getting punched in the gut. He was wearing a black tuxedo, while I was wearing a traditional white wedding dress. I was heart broken. I asked him what was going on and he told me that my parents had told him that it was going to be a black tie wedding because there were going to be a lot of important guests. To spare you the details, they lied about everything. They never intended to give us the wedding of our dreams. They wanted to humiliate me and my husband. I was devastated.<br><br>They gave us a wedding that was the opposite of what we wanted. The reception was filled withWP people I don't know and we couldn't afford to pay for our share. My husband's family was also there with a lot of guests. They had a big toast to our marriage where my parents talked about how proud they were of us and how happy they were that we had decided to get married and how we deserved the "dream wedding" that they had given us. They then passed around a paper with all the costs for us to pay for our "generous gift". The total was $1,500.<br><br>We were devastated and humiliated. We left the reception and went to a hotel where we spent the night. The next morning we went back to the place that we were staying at. We discussed it and decided that it was so absurd and pathetic that we decided to just ignore it and not discuss it with anyone.<br><br>The next morning my husband's family asked us what had happened and we told them that my parents had completely disregarded what we wanted and did whatever they wanted. They apologised for their ignorance and told us that we should not pay for their gift.<br><br>My parents on the other hand started sending us texts and eventually threatened to take us to court if we did not pay. We got a lot of backlash from our friends and family about their "generous gift" that we didn't appreciate. It was a tough time, but we stood firm and refused to pay. Our friendship with my husband's family became even closer and we became more united and strong because of it.<br><br>It's been years since then, but I still cringe whenever I remember it.