Am I bad for not wanting my son to be a "tough guy"?

I'm a single father who got custody of his 8 year old son yesterday. We've been in a legality battle for literal years over this and I'm finally able to live with him. I was absolutely ecstatic when we came home and sat down to talk.<br><br>While we were having dinner, he told me that he got kicked out of drama club at school because he punched a girl in the nose when she wouldn't let him have a role he wanted.<br><br>A part of me was proud of him for standing up for himself, but then I started thinking about who he was being compared to.<br><br>His mother is a very violent person. She got into fights often, threw things at me, and lashed out at innocent people in public for little to no reason. She even tried to file a restraining order against me in the past for not talking to her the way she wanted.<br><br>There are videos of my son online that the mother has posted to get sympathy, and in them, he acts the exact same way that she does. He even has a speech that he memorized and says over and over again about how women shouldn't have a say in what men do.<br><br>I don't want to see my son turn into a violent, un-empathetic person like his mother was. I want to try and teach him a different way to respond to conflict, and I want him to have some respect for women.<br><br>I know that will probably upset some of you in this sub, but I genuinely don't believe all women are bad. I just want my son to be a good person, and I want to help him avoid becoming a violent, aggressive person like his mother.