My (28) Fiancé (30) M said he doesn’t feel like a man because I (28F) is working 50+ hours a week and out-earning him?

Sorry in advance this is long. My apologies I’m very upset. My fiancé said we will never have kids and said he wants to split up if I don’t make significant changes. I am at a loss and want to know if I’m wrong? Or what the hell I can do here. I am very upset in this moment and my relationship is in jeopardy. I don’t even know what to say to him. <br><br>I’ve been with my fiancé 11 years and we planned to have kids soon, but wanted to have an actual home first. We moved to a new state in 2019. He is from Arizona, I’m from New York. We moved to a very expensive city. We were living in a small studio condo. It was about 400 sf. We decided to move to an area that was way less expensive. So now we live in a 3 bedroom home in a city about 30 minutes outside of the city. <br><br>I give birth to my still born daughter in February. I was so stressed at that time with my job and my ability to provide for a baby in this expensive city, I asked if we could wait a little longer for kids. He agreed. <br><br>I work in tech, and my company is growing. My job got a lot more demanding all of a sudden and I’m working 50-60 hours a week. I said I will work 5 days a week (not the weekends) and he said that 50 hours a week is not a normal job and he wants me to change roles. I told him it’s not that easy. I have 14 employees under me, and I’m very important to this company. I’ve worked for them for 10+ years and have gotten a lot of opportunities. I’m not going to just start at the bottom like I’m 20 again. <br><br>I’m crying as I write, I’m just so upset. I asked him why he even said we can wait for kids if he’s now getting cold feet months later? He said it’s not that. He’s ashamed that I make way more than him and that I work way more than him. I’m proud to provide for my family, but he’s ashamed he’s not working enough. He said we will never have kids and he doesn’t want to have kids with me now because he doesn’t feel like a man. He also wants me to stop working so much and find a less demanding job. <br><br>I’m so upset I don’t know what to do? I don’t want to change jobs I love my career and I will not start my career over. What do I do? <br><br>Tl;dr my fiancé makes 60k and I make 400k, he wants me to change jobs and stop out earning him so he can be a man