My husband (40m) has thrown me (38f) under the bus in a dispute with one of his colleagues.

Throwaway as although nothing Has been ruled out yet, I do not want this getting back to my husband’s work. <br><br>My husband is a secondary school vice principal, and he has a colleague who has just been transferred to a different school. This colleague (40m) is a former friend of my husbands, and has been hanging out with us over the past 5 or 6 years. He is still friends with my husband, and has made it clear he would like to remain friends with me too. I am not comfortable with this, as like I said, he has thrown me under the bus. My husband has, a few days ago, made it clear he wants me also to remain friends.<br><br>I am livid with both my husband and his colleague, and I have told them both I will not be remaining friends in this circumstance. The colleague is making out with innocent comments, and my husband is saying I am a drama queen. So I need advice on what to do. <br><br>This is what happened:-<br><br>In July this year, my husband was at a school conference when alcoholic drinks were being served. His colleague was there too, and was driving. I was in attendance, and at one point I said to this colleague “it’s a good thing you’re not driving as you’ve had a lot to drink.” All he said was “yeah.” My husband has just told me that his colleague has just told him that I said to him “are you driving? you’re drunk as shit” and my husband is saying I am lying and that I said the latter. I know I didn’t say that as I would NEVER talk like that to another adult. <br><br>When I told my husband that I wasn’t going to be friends with his colleague anymore after this, he has made it clear it’s not an issue if I don’t want to be friends anymore, but that he hopes the friendship between them will survive this as they are close. I have told him that the friendship is dead to me, just like my dad is dead to me as well. My husband has told me that I’m being dramatic by comparing my relationship with his colleague to my relationship with my father. <br><br>[UPDATE] My husband (40m) has thrown me (38f) under the bus in a dispute with one of his colleagues (40m)