My husband’s ex-wife is destroying our marriage

My (F28) husband (M34) has a daughter (5).<br><br>His ex wife was the best partner he ever had, he still says she was amazing and they had great chemistry, but she needed space. He didn’t understand that and left her, not that she wanted him to, but it was there to be seen had they tried to work things out, they hadn’t been apart for a year when they decided to give their relationship another try. It didn’t work, she wanted kids and he didn’t. <br><br>She was devastated. He was relieved. <br><br>Fast forward 4 years, my husband meets me. 2 years later we get married and have a son. Our life was perfect until his ex started being ‘friend-like’ with him. She was never home when I called her, we would occasionally chat when we met up with friends but it was superficial. She had our daughter a year ago and that’s when the ‘friendship’ turned toxic. <br><br>She calls him in the middle of the night when she can’t breastfeed our daughter, she calls him when she wants to chat, she asks him to dog sit and then expects him to pick up her daughter at a moments notice (I have never met this dog so I don’t know what that’s about). She will tell him to ‘stop being so possessive’ when he doesn’t respond. My husband will be out with our son or at work and she will tell him what to do. I have to tell him to stop answering because his job will lose money. <br><br>I have told my husband many times how toxic her friendship is. It makes him feel like shit. It makes him feel like she still loves him and she’s trying to get back with him. I have told her many times to stop and she says sorry, but it doesn’t stop. My husband is a ghost in his daughter’s life. I have raised his daughter for almost a year and he hasn’t met with her in almost 12 months. She doesn’t want him to. She doesn’t let her see my husband. I have tried to speak to her but she’s said so many hurtful things about me. She calls me a one dimensional childless woman. I have never met this woman but I feel so defeated. <br><br>I have sent my husband to therapy, I have spoken to work about the lost money, I don’t know what to do anymore.