My husband peed on my wedding dress the night of our wedding

I got married last month and I’m still fucking livid.<br><br>My husband and I have been together for nearly 10 years now. We decided to get married last year and started making plans for our big day. Now this is the part where I really need to explain something: I have a younger brother, who I will refer to as Chris. Chris is disabled and requires a lot of attention and care. He cannot do things by himself, so he also requires someone to look after him. Now, of course, that someone is my parents. They have sacrificed their free time, their careers, their hobbies, their own marriages, just for Chris.<br><br>As you can imagine, growing up with Chris wasn’t easy. There were many resentful moments, and I’ve gone through a lot of emotional struggles regarding Chris and what I felt was lacking from my parents when I was a child. However, as an adult, things are better. Chris will require professional care once our parents cannot look after him anymore, and we have been discussing the details for quite some time.<br><br>Now, on to the issue. Our wedding was going great, until midnight or so, when Chris had a major temper attack. He was extremely upset, and started throwing things around, hitting people... we couldn’t calm him down. I was in tears, my parents were in panic, my husband was also flustered. The wedding ended up being cut short, and I ended up going home right behind my parents along with my husband. Chris was still throwing a tantrum, and we all ended up sitting up the whole night, trying to calm him down. I was still wearing my dress, as I didn’t have the chance to change after the wedding.<br><br>The next morning, my dress was stained and the fabric was frizzy. I spent the whole day crying, and my husband was also very disappointed. When I calmed down, I asked him “how did this happen? How did Chris not get the attention needed before things got this bad?”<br><br>Then it hit me... I remembered something awful my husband once said. He was venting to me over drinks, and said “I wish your parents would just allow Chris to become an adult and live on his own. They are so paranoid about him and overprotective to the point where it’s become ridiculous”<br><br>I confronted my husband with what I remembered. He denied he had ever said that, and then he confessed something even worse: he had asked my parents to deliberately ignore the behaviors we knew would set Chris off beforehand.<br><br>I was horrified to say the least. I broke down crying and I’m still furious. I don’t know if I can ever forgive him.