People who shut down when threatened don’t actually “shrug off confrontation” like Reddit seems to think

Explain, in detail. I’m sure I’m not the only one who thinks this way. I’ve dealt with a couple of people on Reddit saying things like “I’m not confrontational, or I’m not a confrontation starter.” When I used to be that way, back when I thought about confrontation. I thought that if someone threatened me that I could just avoid them, and just let it go. It’s interrogation 101, or at least it should be. I’m not sure how confrontation works in your mind, but the way it works in the real world is that the person who is going to start a fight is going to start it anyway. If you start a confrontation, you are starting a fight. I’ve seen people in my life shut down over this. They won’t go out for weeks. I’ve had two jobs in my life, both ended in me or the other person shutting down after they said or did something that threatened me. For instance, the last time it happened to me, I was fired because I told my manager that I was gonna fuck up the dude who was starting shit with me. That wasn’t the reason they gave me, but it was the reason I was denied unemployment. If someone is threatening you, you need to tell them that you will end them, and then back that up if they don’t stop. When I said that, he stopped talking to me for the rest of my time there, until I told him that I wasn’t going to do shit to him after I was fired. I made the mistake of telling my manager what he said to me once. I didn’t say that I would fuck up the dude, I just said that I wasn’t comfortable working with him, and that I didn’t want to be around him. My boss told me to grow up, and that I needed to suck it up and work with him, or to quit. I ended up quitting a few days later. I didn’t say I wasn’t comfortable working with him because I was scared of him. I told him that because I didn’t trust myself to be around him. That I couldn’t guarantee that he would make it out of one of our shifts alive. I was right. Keep in mind that this confrontation was over the fact that I dared to disagree with him. I wasn’t trying to fight him, although looking back on it I should have been. In retrospect, I probably should have just told my manager that I threatened the guy, and that in order to keep him safe I was going to need to quit. That would have been hilarious. Anyway, the point is that someone threatening you is a simple thing to deal with. You can’t just hide under your bed and hope that the boogeyman doesn’t come after you. You can’t just avoid people because they talk shit. You can’t just run away from your problems. Sometimes you have to stand up and say things that you wish you hadn’t said. You have to tell people that you will murder them if they don’t stop. You have to tell people that you will end them, and then you have to do it if they don’t stop. <br><br>Edit: I should mention that I’m not talking about people just talking shit. What I’m talking about is when someone says something like “you’re gonna hurt someone one of these days” or “I’m gonna fuck you up if you keep doing that.” That’s a threat. If you’re just talking shit, I don’t have a problem with you. Not all conflict is bad, but not all conflict is good either. This is specifically for threats.