AITA for telling my husband that since his parents sent me money, I'm spending it how I want?

I was never comfortable taking money from my SILs parents. She and her husband are well off now, but her parents did send her through college. They also gave her a pretty substantial amount of money to put towards her first house- which is why she was able to buy such a beautiful one.<br><br>My inlaws also tried to give me money to put towards my college, but I didn't want to be a burden on them when their daughter needed it more. I applied for loans and did everything I could to pay for my own college. I made it through without any major problems.<br><br>After we bought our house, my inlaws offered me money again. They said that since SIL's house was more expensive, they wanted to give me money for furniture. I told them I had saved up enough to furnish our house nicely. They offered again, I told them again that I had enough saved to buy what I wanted, and then offered to put the money towards my nephews college in the future. That was because I didn't want to politely call them out on trying to keep up with their daughter.<br><br>They tried to give me money for our wedding, but we didn't use it. I instead bought something nice for my husband as a wedding gift and a few things that we could donate. My inlaws asked for it back, but I had already spent it. They didn't push it, but I know they were annoyed.<br><br>Since my husband and I moved to be closer to his parents, they've offered me money a lot more. My husband has talked to them about it. He told them that I just don't feel comfortable taking money from them. They told him that it's only because I don't like them and that I'm a gold digger. He said he explained that it's not that. I would never take money from them because I don't want them to think of me as a burden.<br><br>They've been giving me money since that conversation. They sent me money to go shopping with and buy something nice. I used it to buy my husband something he's wanted. They gave me money to go out to a nice dinner. I went to a cheap restaurant but took my sister. They've given me money to buy myself a car. It was used, but very nice and exactly what I wanted.<br><br>My inlaws got mad at me almost every time. They said I should have used the money for myself. I explained to them that I bought myself the best gift. I got to see the person I love the most in the world smile. Or I got to hang out with a very important person in my life. My inlaws said that I was being selfish and smug. I explained to them that if they didn't want me to spend the money, then they shouldn't give it to me. They got mad and asked for it back. I told them that it was already gone.<br><br>So they asked my husband to talk to me. He talked to me. He said that I shouldn't take their money when I don't plan on using it for myself. I told him that I didn't ask them for money. I don't want their money. But I've been told my whole life as a woman that I'm selfish. So I got the money and used it for the people I love. He said they didn't want me spending it on him. I told him that I'm spending it how I want since they gave it to me. I didn't ask for anything from them.<br><br>My inlaws and husband are all pissed at me. My sister thinks I'm petty. But my mom thinks I'm making a good point. AITA?