My daughter-in-law got me fired.

I’m an 61-year-old white woman. My son is 32. He and his wife have been trying to have another child for some time, but were unable to. Last year, they finally got a daughter through adoption. I’m grateful that they have a healthy baby, and thrilled that they get to add her to their family. <br><br>My son and daughter-in-law are both high earners and have always been financially generous with their family-church charities, and so on. They decided to hire me on as a live-in babysitter for their daughter at a significant wage, as well as reinstate their weekly pocket money they used to give me when I was their dad’s third wheel. I’ve been living with them and taking care of their baby since she was born. <br><br>I’ve been enjoying this set-up for over a year now, and they’ve seemed happy with my childcare. Until last month. <br><br>Last month, a visit from my children. During this time, my grandkids were incredibly rude, crude, and demanding. My grandsons asked me to come into his bedroom and make a gross sexual gesture in front of him, and my granddaughter asked if she was “pretty enough to be a Playboy model” if I “painted all my pubes.” <br><br>Additionally, they both were extremely disrespectful to me. My grandson asked if I was “too old to remember” a particular movie, then snapped his fingers when I didn’t immediately remember it, and my granddaughter told me that I looked old and ugly, then laughed in my face when I corrected her on the difference between old and ugly. <br><br>My grandkids also threw a lot of toys, and tried to hit me when I told them to stop. My daughter-in-law did nothing to stop any of this. <br><br>I left early from my visit with my kids, as I was disturbed by how my grandkids were treating me. The next day, I called my son and daughter-in-law to express my concerns about the disrespect my grandkids showed me, and ask if they could work on their kids’ manners before I returned home. My son answered and told me that my kids’ tolerance for me stopped being about me being “their guinea pig” back in 2019, when they first started trying to conceive. He said that he and his wife “grew up,” and no longer saw me as family. <br><br>I was shocked by what he said and asked him what that meant for my position. He told me that it meant he’d talk to his wife, and they’d make a decision. The next day, he called me to tell me that they’d decided that I was no longer family, but a glorified nanny who was in no way entitled to live-in status, and they were both severing their adult child supplement to me. <br><br>I was devastated, as not only did I lose my position and financial support, but I was also asked to vacate the house immediately. <br><br>It’s been nearly two months since I got kicked out, and I’m struggling financially. I’m struggling with the way my kids treated me. <br><br>If you were in my son’s daughter’s position, you would understand if you took steps to protect yourself from your parent being around your kids when you feel like they are disrespectful and abusive. I don’t see anything wrong with what they did, and I’m embarrassed that I’m so blind.<br><br>**