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My (26F) boyfriend (31M) wants to break up cause I gave him a Valentine’s Day gift that was “too girly” for him

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I’ve been in a relationship with this guy for 2 years. He is somewhat a “troll” in the sense that he loves to do things to annoy me, but he does this in a way that is not meant to be malicious. The reason I put “troll” in quotation marks is because his “trolling” does stray into malicious territory sometimes, like one time where he refused to tell me what was in the meatballs he made because he knew I would get mad (I was right, he was lying and there was pork in them and I’m Muslim). But I’ve more or less left it because it is, more often than not, harmless. <br><br>On February 1st of this month, he said he wanted us to play a game. The game was this: I would give him a valentine’s day gift, then he would look at it and give me a number from 1-100. 1 meaning he hated it, 100 meaning he loved it. He said I couldn’t buy a good valentine’s day present for him, and I told him the only reason why that’s true is because I am too good at reading people and he is not. This led to a little bit of an argument but in the end, I ended up going to Target and telling him to pick out a gift. I figured this was the best way we could settle the argument, as he could pick out exactly what he wants. <br><br>So we’re at Target and he’s giving me really hard to follow instructions about what he wants. This is a problem because he is dumb as a brick and I have to explain very simple concepts to him often. I think he was joking about how serious he took this game because he was dead serious that I needed to get him the correct shade of a certain color, the correct type of chocolate, and the correct size. But I followed his instructions as best I could and got him the gift. <br><br>Fast forward to Valentine’s Day, and I gave him the exact gift he picked out. He took it and got angry at me, saying I got it wrong, I am an idiot, and that I couldn’t even get *him* a gift right even though he *told me exactly what to get* (his words, not mine). He told me this gift was a 0/100. He told me I would always be an idiot and it is so frustrating to be in a relationship with someone as dumb as me. <br><br>I was so angry that I told him to break up with me if being with me annoyed him so much. He looked shocked and told me he wasn’t unhappy being with me, and I told him to fuck off and cried. I told him that he doesn’t even like me, and I will never be able to give him what he wants. I can’t even give him a goddamn box of chocolates correctly. <br><br>After my breakdown, he said he was done with me and that he just can’t be with someone who is so stupid. I reaffirmed that if he wants to be with someone else, I will let him go and I will not stop him. Then he went silent and hasn’t spoken to me since. I really don’t give a fuck about this break-up, and I’m actually much happier now that he’s left my apartment and I don’t have to deal with him. But I am worried he’s still in love with me or something and I need to let him go in a way that will make it clear we are 100% over. <br><br>What should I do? How can I let him go in a way that will make him realize we’re over and will let me move on with my life?<br><br>TL;DR!: My ex BF and I played a game where I would give him a valentines day present and he would give it a score, but when I gave him the present he got angry that I didn’t get him the exact right thing and broke up with me. How can I let him go in a way that he will realize we are 100% over and I will let him go?

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