CMV: If you are someone who doesn't want to have kids, it is an absolute mistake to talk about the possibility of having kids with someone you are in a serious relationship with.

#Edit: This is a very interesting discussion so far. I'm going to leave it at this, and I will post a TLDR at the end. For those of you who are saying that telling the truth is the best way, and that talking about it will help understand the other persons view, you're talking about communication, not about changing each other's views. It is extremely hard to do this, and most of the time a misunderstanding will happen. Why would you go into a relationship where you might be hurt in the future? And why would you do it to someone you care about? It may not be a conscious thing, but this is how most of us are wired when we are in love.<br><br>****<br><br>I think that if you are someone who doesn't want to have kids, it is an absolute mistake to talk about the possibility of having kids with someone you are in a serious relationship with, because it will create a lot of problems and a lot of misunderstanding down the line.<br><br>A lot of people are hesitant to be very blunt about not wanting kids in the beginning of a relationship, and this will lead to some comments about it, and the other person may take it as a sign that you may rethink your decision in the future. You telling them that you don't want kids may be taken as something you are not 100% sure about, and they may be very surprised to hear you say that.<br><br>You telling the other person that you are not going to have kids may be seen as something you are not 100% sure about, so they will feel encouraged to talk about the possibility of you having kids, and this is bound to cause a lot of problems. They may ask you to think about it, they may say they don't want kids either but may change their mind in the future, and they may ask you to do things that may change your mind, such as babysitting or other things with kids, and this will go on for the rest of the relationship, and may become an obsession or an issue that would be hard to get over.<br><br>This leads to a lot of misunderstandings, hurt feelings on both sides, and a lot of wasted time, especially if the other person is someone who wants kids and you are someone who doesn't. But if you are very honest and blunt about this, and tell them that you don't want a relationship with them if they want kids, you will be saving yourself and the other person a lot of time and heartache.<br><br>****<br><br>TLDR: If you don't want kids, you should never go into a relationship with someone who wants them. They will change their mind at some point, and you will end up in a very bad situation.