AITA for telling my wife to either take my money or she can be responsible for our finances?

tl;dr: wife thinks i dont make enough. she has just been informed that if she thinks i dont make enough, she can make more. she instead wants me to make more, and for us to live within our means. she is wrong in this instance.<br><br>My wife (F35) and I (M34) are happily married for almost 10 years. We have no children, and we both make a six-figure income. I make around $250k/year, but have a lot of job security and terrific benefits. She makes around $400k, but will have to find a new job in around 2-3 years. We live in a 2 bedroom apartment, and with our combined income, we dont really have to worry about money at all, we save quite a bit every month, and we have a terrific time doing so. <br><br>The issue is, wife recently has voiced that she thinks we need to cut back on costs. I cant really see where, besides maybe food (we spend maybe $500-600 a month on eating out and groceries). We dont have any other large costs. I began asking what specifically she thought we should cut, and she gave me a very vague answer. This resulted in me telling her that if she thinks we should cut costs, she can do the budgeting for our money. She does not want to do this, she is merely giving her opinion. I took her opinion as telling me to do something, but not telling me how to do it. I dont like that. I asked her what she thought we were spending money on, that we could cut back on. She didnt know, she just thought we should. <br><br>Anyways, this has been an issue for a few days. Wife now found out about a trip that i am planning to take to Europe. I have been planning this trip for almost a year, i told her about it a month ago, and she has all of the details. I go there twice a year, once with her, and once with a couple of my friends. She knows that i am going, she knows the cost of the trip, and she knows what i will be doing. However, she still seems to think that this trip is something i recently planned and she recently found out about. This has her saying that i should cut back on costs, and this trip is an example. <br><br>I dont think i should have to cut back on this trip. I make enough to cover it. She does not think i make enough, and this trip is an example of this. Anyways, im the AH because i told her that if she thinks i dont make enough, maybe she can take over household finances. She doesnt want to take over the finances, she just wants me to "make more". I told her to make more then, since she seems to think that is the problem.<br><br>EDIT: Wife makes $400k/year. We have been discussing this in the comments. It is an executive job at a large Biotech company. She has worked for this company for over 10 years, and will be moving on to a different company in 2-3 years. She is also from the country where i take the trip. She loves it there, and has gone 3 times in the last 12 months.<br><br>EDIT2: Wife is 7 months pregnant with our first child. She is the breadwinner. I asked her if she thought i should cut back on costs after the baby is born. She told me i should cut back on costs now, because she is already carrying our child. I told her that if she thinks she is carrying the burden of our child, then she can carry the burden of our finances. This did not go well.<br><br>EDIT3: Wife just skewered me for saying that i was 'forcing' her to do our finances. I told her that i pay for over half of our joint expenses, so really what i am doing is i am taking over those areas. This was also poorly received.<br><br>EDIT4: Wife and i have had a few more talks. I have done a budget, and we have a meeting with a financial planner tonight. Wife thinks i should ask for a raise. I told her she should ask for a raise (she would be a better candidate), she said no. Wife is not in danger of being fired, she just will have to move to a different city in 2-3 years, and she guesses that our company will not pay to move her.<br><br>EDIT5: Wife is complaining that i still havent asked for a raise. I told her she should ask for one instead, since she makes more than i do. She does not want to ask for a raise, she just wants me to. She is wrong. This is going to have to be dropped. To be clear, i asked for a raise and was denied. So that is a non-issue.