If you're in a relationship, making yourself too easily available is a bad thing. It can make you seem boring.

I'm not suggesting you ignore your partner or play games. What I'm saying is to maintain your identity outside of your relationship and to not suppress your own interests for the sake of your relationship. <br><br>What do I mean by that? If your partner calls you at 8 AM while you're still in bed and tells you to meet them at some coffee shop, you should say no because you don't feel like it / you have work etc. This helps maintain your identity and autonomy in the relationship and helps build respect. <br><br>But now imagine a situation where you're making yourself available 24/7. For example, you drop everything you're doing to make the bare minimum coffee because you were told to do so. Or you start to suppress your hobbies and preferences because you don't want to start an argument. You start to go to places you don't like and hang out with people you don't get along with. All this is bad because you're sacrificing your happiness for the happiness of your partner. This helps maintain the relationship but sacrifices your identity and autonomy. And if you think that this is what your partner wants then you're wrong. No person likes a partner who has no hobbies, identity, or preferences. No person likes a partner who is ready to do anything they say at a moment's notice. Its unattractive to be treated like a puppet because you're too easy to manipulate and its boring to be around a partner who has no personality or autonomy. This leads to a toxic relationship where one partner's "kindness" and "love" for the other is actually a sacrifice of their own identity.<br><br>So the next time you're making a decision, ask yourself why you're making it. Is it because you want to or is it because you want to avoid conflict? Is it because you like it or because you don't want to be labeled as rude? When you find yourself in a situation like this, remember that your identity is just as important as the relationship itself.