UPDATE-My (30M) wife (28F) has said she wants divorce every day for the last 9 months. How can I change her mind?

First of all, I want to apologize for not answering every single comment in my previous post. I am genuinely touched by the amount of help and advice I got. I read through almost every one and every bit of advice counts.<br><br>The first thing I did was go home and tell her we needed to talk. Right off the bat, I apologized for not communicating with her, not responding when she complained and not showing I cared enough about her. <br><br>I then explained that I don't want a divorce and that I still very much love her. I explained how I thought a good husband would act and how I realized I didn't respond the way I should have. I told her exactly what I wrote in my first post. I included all the things I wish I would have done and how I would change if she agreed to stay with me. <br><br>While I was talking, she just sat silent the whole time with tears in her eyes. After I was done, she said she was starting to regret saying she wanted a divorce. I then held her hand, which she didn't pull away from, and told her how much she meant to me. She then started crying and I held her and told her I loved her. <br><br>The rest of the day, we just acted like a couple. We made lunch together, talked about random things and were both a great company to each other. We didn't talk about our relationship again, but we talked about her day and what she had gone through. She thanked me for listening to her and I told her I wish I would have done it sooner. We didn't get to the root of the problem yet, but at least I think I bought myself some time. <br><br>After lunch, I told her that when she's ready to talk about everything and exactly why she wants a divorce, I'm here to listen to her. I also told her that I'm going to show her how much I care about her and want to be with her. Hopefully, we can work things out and at the very least, she'll know exactly how important she is to me.<br><br>So far, it's been a big relief. I can actually sleep without thinking about her leaving me. I know this is just a temporary band-aid fix and we really have to sit down and talk. But for the first time in nine months, I feel like there is hope and I'm not ready to give up yet.<br><br>tl;dr: I told my wife I loved her and that I'm going to show her I care about her and she said she started regretting saying she wanted a divorce.<br><br>EDIT: I'm so touched by everyone's kind comments and words of encouragement. I never expected my story to touch so many people and I'm so happy this is a wonderful community. Thank you for being so wonderful and I'm so happy this is a place where I can also get help and support.<br><br>I just wanted to update really quick and say that my wife and I have been acting like a couple and we've had our first minor argument. But it's been a good thing. <br><br>One thing I forgot to mention is that we've stopped having sex ever since she told me she wanted a divorce. It's been about 8-9 months since we've had sex, and the last time we did it was exactly when she told me she wanted a divorce. But last night we had sex and it felt amazing. Just to be able to hold my wife and be with her again was probably the best night I had in almost a year. <br><br>But it was also during sex that we got into an argument. She wanted me to stop and I misheard and kept going. I thought she had said to keep going. Anyways, she had to hit me in the chest to get me to stop. I apologized and she barely said anything back to me. She just got out of bed and left the room. She barely said anything the rest of the night. <br><br>I felt incredibly embarrassed and ashamed. I can't believe I misheard her like that and it was a stupid mistake. But it was also a great sign that when I apologized, she didn't yell at me. She barely said anything to me, which I also don't like, but at least she didn't hate me. <br><br>So, at least things are starting to move in a positive direction. I still need to get her to open up and talk to me, but I'm a patient man when it comes to the people I love.