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My [32F] boyfriend [33M] wants to keep his mother’s dog after her passing. I am not happy about this and feel cornered

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My boyfriend of 2 years has an mother that still lives in his home country. 2 years ago she got a small dog (knitted terrier or something like that, very small dog). Since his mother lives alone and is retired, she walks the dog 2-3 times a day, every day. <br><br>She got very ill while her son was visiting her for Christmas and passed away on New Years Day. His plan is to keep her house and have his sister live there. But he wants to keep the dog. The dog is 2 years old. <br><br>The problem is that I do not want to keep the dog. First of all, we live in an apartment that does not have an elevator. It is 4 flights of stairs and I don’t see us taking the dog out 3 times a day (we have very different schedules). I work from home sometimes and my office is a 10 minute walk from our apartment, so it is doable to take the dog out once or twice a day if need be. But I really don’t want to and I don’t think it’s fair on the dog. <br><br>My boyfriend knows this and has asked me multiple timed before if I’d be okay with getting a dog and I’ve always said no. <br><br>I have told him that I do not want the dog, but he seems to have made his mind up. He is going to look after the dog. I have asked him where he will take the dog out to walk it and he hasn’t replied. I’ve asked him how he will walk the dog when he is away on business trips and he hasn’t replied. He seems to not care about my opinion on the matter. <br><br>His sister does not want the dog as she has a cat andknw that the dog and cat would not get along.<br><br>I feel cornered. I feel like he wants me to say we can keep the dog here, at our apartment. I have lived here for 8 years and it is my home. I do not want to disrupt my life by getting a dog I do not want, that I have turned down multiple times. I also do not want to take this dog away from his natural habitat (theknw house and neighborhood). I do not want to walk the dog 3 times a day, even though I know I would be the one to do so because I am home more. I just don’t want the dog. <br><br>What do I do? I want him to take responsibility for the dog but I feel like the only fair option is to either get the dog or break up. They are the only two options I see.

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