I t (58M) found out that my sister (60F) has been using my first and middle name as her psuedom for her artist career. I'm devastated and worried about what my wife (58F) and our children think.

My sister has always been a talented artist. She used to piece together curtains and sheets to sew dresses and tops for our family as a child. She studied fashion and fine art in college and went on to get her MA in fine art. She went through a few artist career before finding success for herself in digital art. She used to go to conventions and sell her art but now she works freelance for a few companies and has a really dedicated following.<br><br>Last week, she posted on her socials about finishing a commission and posted a video on her IG story. She had her camera pointing down and all you saw were her hands. But she sometimes talks to her viewers while she works. She had a chat popped up on her second monitor and she occasionally responds to comments or answers questions from her viewers. I was watching and she talked about liking to go camping but she drives to the camp site in her car. She said her camp site was completely set up in about fifteen minutes. I was a bit confused because she doesn't really like camping and she's mentioned that multiple times over the years. <br><br>One of the viewers asked her why she doesn't like camping and she replied that it's not that she doesn't like it, she just doesn't. Then another viewer asked why her dads name was on the camping tent and she laughed and said she stole it from her brother. <br><br>That was confusing and I was curious so I went to the website her tent manufacturer has set up for all their products. I want to say it's something like REI. They're pretty expensive and from what I remember, my sister and I used to have their sleeping bags which were passed down from our father. But you can customize the color and name and emblem for certain items so I figured she had just put my name there as a joke. But then I saw my middle initial was also on the tent and all the customization options have a first name and middle initial. <br><br>I'm not sure why but it bothered me. Maybe it was because she never talked to me about it first or maybe it was the fact that my father passed away two years ago and she knows how close we were so maybe it was supposed to be a poor attempt at a memorial? Either way I sent her a text stating that I was happy for her success and that I would appreciate it if she would stop using my name. <br><br>She didn't respond for a few days but when she called me, she was very defensive and started off by asking me why I was on her website. I told her it was my name on her tent but she said that wasn't true since it was our dads name. I told her that wasn't true, she had put my middle initial on it and she said that it was dads middle initial as well. I knew that, obviously, but I don't use my middle name. I go by my first name and she goes by her second name. I asked her how many people would actually know that and she said probably none of her followers but it doesn't matter because I don't follow her so I wouldn't have known unless I went looking for it. <br><br>That hurt and I asked her why she said that. She said she knew I didn't approve of her career and that I only care about my family and my job. I work as a lawyer at a big firm in my city and I'm pretty high up in the company so I work a lot. I'm not a good lawyer because I'm a good networker, I'm a good lawyer because I put in a lot of effort and hours into my cases and helping my clients. I always thought she understood that but I guess I was wrong. <br><br>I tried to tell her my side but she wasn't listening. She told me she was going to keep using my name because she'd already spent to much time building up her career to change directions now. <br><br>I didn't respond and hung up the phone. <br><br>I've been in shock since then. Part of me feels like I'm over reacting and should just let her have it but the other part of me is livid and feels violated. <br><br>My wife is on my side. She thinks my sister is being selfish and she's very disappointed in her. But our children are split. Our son (29M) and younger daughter (19F) are on my side but our older daughter (33F) is on my sisters side. <br><br>In fact, my own daughter called me up and told me that my sister didn't do anything wrong and that she needed to grow up and let it go. <br><br>I'm just really lost right now. I don't know how to work through this with my sister because we've never fought like this. Even as kids we never really fought so this is a very odd situation for me.