AITA for buying the $40 wedding dress?

I (28F) have been friends with this girl Sarah (27F) since middle school. Back in December she sent out a group text saying that she had met someone and it was “serious” and that they were going to get married over Zoom in March. She kind of framed it as a sweet thing for her elderly grandfather to see before he passed, even if he was in another country. She was going to keep it closed to family until March. <br><br>I totally understood. I was kind of surprised by the whole thing. She hadn’t mentioned anyone to me. I asked to see photos of her future husband. She said she would rather not because she was “stupid on social media” and thought it was “safer” to keep photos of her husband offline. I had no issue with this. We were just chatting for fun and I figured if I wanted to see her husband it was whatever. <br><br>Flash forward to last week. She sent out a group text saying she was married. Still Zoom, but with a lot more planning and a professional photographer. I asked if I could finally see photos of her new husband. She said of course. <br><br>The photos were beautiful. She and her husband both looked great. She looked really sweet. When she started posting photos I noticed she was looking through a bridal store, trying on dresses, talking to her friends about hair and makeup. <br><br>I saw a photo of her and her husband embracing. She was in a stunning lace strapless gown. She was so pretty. I have a little girl and it made me feel bad that she was missing out on so much. I asked in the comments if she felt a little sad that she didn’t have a ‘traditional’ wedding and she said no, but her husband ‘did’ feel bad. I wanted to help. I knew she wanted a big wedding and she was in her late 20s. I have a wedding dress that I never got to wear. <br><br>My ex-fiancé bought it for me. He wanted me to wear it for our wedding. It was strapless and lace, the kind of dress you see in movies. He paid $800 for it. A few months later we broke up. We both agreed it was for the best. We were in our early 20s at the time. I couldn’t sell the dress. It was very expensive. My mother suggested saving it but I felt gross about wearing a wedding dress that my ex had bought for me. I decided to donate it. I had a hard time finding someone to take it. It is a very nice gown. Not a lot of people have the money to afford strapless lace wedding dresses. <br><br>I offer my dress to Sarah. I said in the comments, “Sarah, I actually own a wedding dress like this. It’s from [brand], and from [year]. It’s in great condition. I had planned on donating but I would rather give it to you. If you want it, it’s yours for free, and it’s yours immediately. If you don’t want it, no hard feelings.” I didn’t send it as a private message because I didn’t want her to feel like I was attacking her or anything. <br><br>Almost immediately, I get a text from Sarah. It’s not a group text. It’s just to me. She’s asking me “what kind of game am I playing?” And telling me to stop being “weird”. This made me really confused. I wrote back, “Sorry Sarah, did I do something wrong? I thought you wanted a big dress. I have a big dress. Why did I offend you?” <br><br>She calls me a few minutes later. She asks me to confirm that I don’t have a wedding dress. I’m confused. I tell her of course I have a wedding dress. She literally saw a photo of it from our wedding planning. I tell her it’s in a storage bin in my garage. I ask her again, gently, “If you want the dress, I’ll send it to you. If you don’t, it’s totally fine. But you seem really upset. Is something wrong Sarah?” <br><br>Then she starts SCREAMING at me. Like, full on, off the rails, screaming. She’s telling me I’m a liar. I don’t have a wedding dress. She says that she’s going to tell all of our friends what a liar I am. Then hangs up on me. <br><br>I start getting text messages from her. “You’re a liar”. “You don’t have a wedding dress”. “You’re a troll”. I have no idea what’s going on. I write back, “Sarah, I don’t understand what’s happening. I’m trying to be nice to you and you’re calling me a liar. What happened?” <br><br>I get a call from another of our friends, Jen (30s F). I kind of answer on autopilot. Jen asks me what happened with Sarah. I tell her I’m not 100% sure, but I think she hates me now. I tell her that I tried to give her my wedding dress and she kind of flipped out. <br><br>Then Jen tells me that Sarah doesn’t actually have a wedding dress. She said that her budget was $1,000 for a dress and they were all out of her budget. She said that Sarah tried to return her dress from David’s Bridal but it was too late. She ended up buying a cheap wedding dress from Amazon. It was $40. Jen said she’s really self-conscious about it. <br><br>I tell Jen that if Sarah is feeling self-conscious about her dress it makes sense that she would flip out if someone offered her a free $800 gown. I ask if she thinks that Sarah would feel better if I didn’t mention it. Jen said yes. I say okay. <br><br>I go back to Sarah’s Facebook page. The first thing I see is a post about how “friendship is about supporting someone”, and “no one is perfect”, and that she loves her friends so much. Then I get a text from her saying, “I’m so sorry. I overreacted. I feel really bad. I’m literally shaking.” <br><br>I write back “It’s okay Sarah. I’m not mad at you or anything.” But she writes back “No, I’m really sorry. I feel awful. I’m going to take some time to think about my actions.” <br><br>I’m a little confused over what happened. I tried to do something nice for her and she flipped out. I feel a little hurt that she would think that I was trying to be mean to her. But if she’s feeling self-conscious about her wedding dress situation, I can understand why she would overreact. <br><br>The whole thing has kind of left a bad taste in my mouth. I don’t hate Sarah but I don't think we're as close as I thought we were.