"Shaming" men for being virgins is a clever ruse

Men are shamed for being virgins because women want to be seen as a prize that's worth pursuing. But the real harm is that the only reason why men would know that the stigma even exists is because of women.<br><br>Men are the ones that are supposed to pursue. We are the ones that are supposed to put ourselves out there, to face rejection, to be vulnerable, and to be hurt. Women just sit back and reap the rewards. They get to be choosy with the best options available to them, all while having their feet wet by the beta males who still fall for the trap and try their luck.<br><br>When a man loses his virginity, he is no longer a mystery to himself. He finally figured out how to navigate his own emotions, how to overcome his own nervousness, and how to build up the confidence that he needs in order to connect with others. And when he does connect with a woman, she is the one that reaps the benefits of having sex with an experienced man.<br><br>It's the same reason why women love going after celebrities, athletes, musicians, etc. They want the validation of being with someone who is desirable to other women. They want to feel like they are a prize that's worth pursuing. But they don't want the challenge of actually pursuing someone that they like. They want the convenience of having a partner who already has all of the qualities that they are looking for, without having to put in the effort to actually develop their own interests and passions.<br><br>Shaming men for being virgins is just a way for women to get inside of men's heads. They want to make us feel like we are inadequate, like we are missing something, like we are incomplete. But the truth is that there is nothing wrong with being a virgin. There is nothing wrong with waiting until you find the right person, until you've developed your own interests and passions, until you've learned how to navigate your own emotions and how to build confidence in yourself.<br><br>Women want to make us feel like they are a prize that's worth pursuing. But they are not a prize. They are a person, just like us. And if we want to pursue them, then we should do it on our own terms, not because we are trying to overcome a stigma or live up to a preconceived notion of what it means to be a man.<br><br>We should be pursuing women because we are genuinely interested in getting to know them, not because we are trying to prove something to ourselves or to others. We should be pursuing women because we want to connect with them, not because we want to validate our own egos.<br><br>And most importantly, we should be pursuing women because we want to, not because we feel obligated to.<br><br>So the next time that you hear someone making fun of a guy for being a virgin, just remember that they are playing right into the hands of the women who want to use shame and guilt to get what they want. They are playing right into the hands of the women who want to make us feel like we are inadequate, incomplete, and unworthy of love and connection.<br><br>So let's stop playing into their hands. Let's stop giving them the attention that they crave. Let's stop trying to prove ourselves to them, and to others. Let's just be ourselves, and let's pursue the things that we want, on our own terms.<br><br>This is the only way that we will ever be truly happy, and fulfilled.<br><br>And this is the only way that we will ever be able to connect with others on a real, and meaningful level.<br><br>So let's stop shaming each other for being virgins, and let's start empowering each other to be the best versions of ourselves that we can be.