AITA for kicking out one of my bridesmaids for showing up in the wrong dress?

My (23F) wedding was back on Saturday December 31st and back in August I picked out the dress that I wanted all of my bridesmaids to wear. It was a winter coat with a full skirt and would have been fantastic, except that it had been a couple of months since I had gotten my measurements and so by the time December rolled around, it was incomplete and hadn’t been finished yet. I decided to go ahead with the original coats but to add a longer sleeve to them to go with winter theming and to cover up my arms since I had gained a decent amount of weight the past few months. <br><br>One of my bridesmaids Sally and I are almost the same size and I knew there was going to be issues with the sleeves so I ended up bending over the manager’s desk and asking if they could please extend the length of the sleeves on my dress by about 5-7 inches or if they could add on new sleeves to wear over my original sleeves and go in a different pattern. The pattern coordinator told me it wasn’t a problem at all and that she had it all written down and would have everthing ready to go when we came in to pick out fabrics and such the following week. That following week, BRidesmaid dress planning went as expected, I picked out the patterns for us to use, the florist gave me all of my wedding flowers, I met my fiancé for our last time before the wedding, and I spent a couple of hours at home getting all of my things ready for the following week.<br><br>The following week rolls around and it’s the day that Sally and I were supposed to go dress shopping for our bridesmaid dresses. We show up and everything is prepared for us already and we go ahead and pick out the patterns we would like to use. When we go to look at our dresses in the alteration room the coordinator had already gone ahead and extended the length of the sleeves for both dresses, and they were extended at least 10 inches instead of the 5-7 I had asked for. <br><br>Sally looked at me and said “I know you asked for 5-7 inches, but I’m not a fan of the way the sleeves look like they are, so I was hoping we could do more” I was shocked at this and told her that I had asked for 5-7 inches because my arms were bigger and I didn’t want them bulging out of the dress and 10 inches wouldn’t fix the issue. She said “Oh my bad, I didn’t realize you had gained that much weight” I told her that I didn’t want to be rude, but I would have liked to have been consulted on the changes and I would appreciate if we could go back to the original sleeves or at least have a bit more than what I originally asked for. She rolled her eyes and said “I have already asked the designer to make the changes you requested and they have been made. If you don’t like them, maybe you shouldn’t be getting married.” I was appalled by her comment and let her know that if the changes weren’t reversed by the next Saturday then she would have to sit this one out. I went ahead and contacted the manager and she apologized profusely and told me it would be reversed immediately and to have a wonderful wedding.<br><br>Fast forward to the day of my wedding and everything was going perfectly until we all got into our dresses. Sally’s long sleeves bulged at her arms and mine were perfect. I went to thank the pattern coordinator who had actually listened to me and she pointed out Sally. I went over to Sally and told her that since the changes hadn’t been reversed, this was indeed her wedding day and I told her to change back into her bridesmaid dress and that I was removing her from the role. She was extremely upset and told me that I were so controlling and that I couldn’t prevent her from being my best bride, but I stood firm and she ended up leaving without changing out of her wedding dress. <br><br>My fiancé and I ended up having a wonderful wedding and a few days after the wedding I reached out to Sally and told her that she was no longer a part of the wedding party and that I was asking everyone to remove her from everything, including the wedding photos and she told me to go f myself and to watch what I said because she was my best bride and that I couldn’t prevent her from being my wife. I was thinking of reaching out to her family to apologize for the incident but I’m not sure if I would be in the wrong, so I want to know AITA?