I (M39) just found explicit pics of my wife(F38) and my cousin (M34) on his phone

I (M39) got married to my wife (F38) 8 years ago. We have a 3 year old daughter and a 6 weeks old baby girl.<br><br>My wife and her family moved to our country (let's call it "Noria") from a neighboring country (let's call it "Soria") when she was 16. We met in college and I was able to help her get a better paying job than the one she had.<br><br>My cousin has always been quite spoiled by my family because he had a very hard childhood and we wanted him to have the best life possible, so they even gave him a full inheritance before our grandpa passed away.<br><br>My wife had a very hard life in general, so I also spoiled her a lot, especially when we got together, and I also helped finantially her family back in Soria.<br><br>I would like to mention that I had a lot of trust in my cousin and wife and that's why I gave them a key to my house. Also, my wife was very close to my cousin, so they would send each other gifts and she would call him "baby" sometimes.<br><br>Last week I had to go to work very early in the morning (5 am), so I woke up at 4 am, gave my wife a kiss on the lips (something I do everyday, even if she's sleeping) and left to work.<br><br>I came back home around 3 pm after picking up some groceries for the day, and my wife was in the living room watching Netflix. I noticed that she was wearing a very revealing top (the kind you only wear to the bedroom, if you know what I mean) but I didn't really pay much attention since she usually changes after I arrive.<br><br>Around 5 pm I had to pick up a delivery and leave the groceries at my parent's house. When I came back, my wife's top was zipped up and she was more covered.<br><br>The next day my parents told me they got a call from a blocked number and a man was asking for my cousin. Apparently, he said something along the lines of \*"I'm here to pick up the groceries and I'm standing in front of your house with my hand waving at you\*". They thought this was weird since my cousin was supposed to be in his house, working (he works as a freelance translator). My dad told him about the call and my cousin said he didn't ask for any groceries and didn't call any taxi.<br><br>Then yesterday I came home earlier from work (around 2 pm) because I wasn't feeling well and I wanted to go to bed. My wife and her mom were in my room, looking at something on her mom's phone. My wife was in a towel and her mom was wearing a long bathrobe. They kinda stopped when I opened the door and looked me in the eyes for a little while, then my wife left to the bathroom to finish showering. I asked her mom if she was okay because I was about to go to bed and she said she could leave, so she left and I closed the door.<br><br>Later that night my wife asked me to pick up some medicine from the pharmacy (which is in front of my parent's house) and I noticed she had already planned a walk with her mom after we went to bed. I told her to go to the pharmacy while I watched the baby, but she insisted that I should be the one going. I told her that I had to work early the next day, so I asked if she could go with her mom instead. She said no, \*"you don't have to go to work, I can take care of the baby"\* and then I noticed she was wearing lingerie under her pajamas, but she's always done that, so I didn't really pay attention. I told her I wasn't feeling well and she should go, but she kept insisting. At some point she told me \*"please baby, don't make me go there"\* and I said \*"yes baby, please don't go there"\* and she looked at me weird, like she did something wrong or felt bad about what she had just said, but I didn't really pay attention to that either.<br><br>Then we had a fight because I told her that it's not that hard to go or ask her mom to go for her, but she insisted that she couldn't go. I told her she didn't have to go, I would go, but only if she stopped calling me a \*"baby"\*.<br><br>Then I noticed she was calling and texting someone while I was talking to her, but she wouldn't tell me who it was.<br><br>Later that night she told me she wasn't gonna take care of the baby and I should figure it out by myself, so she locked the door to our bedroom and went to sleep. When I came to bed I found pictures printed out of her, my cousin and his dog. There were two with them hugging and the other one had the 3 of them in it.<br><br>I woke her up immediately and I asked her what the pictures meant and she told me they were just pictures she took when she went to his house to leave him a gift and he asked her to take a selfie with his dog, which she does sometimes because she loves that dog. I didn't really buy her explanation and I told her that wasn't true at all.<br><br>I then pulled out my phone and showed her the picture of the text her mom sent me, which said \*"I'm at the pharmacy, did you find something nice at home?"\*. My wife was looking for something in her mom's phone when I arrived, so it could only be the picture of her mom asking about what she found, but she didn't know I had taken a print screen of that text.<br><br>She got mad at me for keeping her mom's message in my phone, but she couldn't sustain her lie any longer, so she started crying and saying that my cousin came to our house and they had sex in front of the baby and she was topless while she was breastfeeding.<br><br>I didn't say a word, I just took my kids and left to my parent's house.<br><br>My wife is asking me to forgive her because she didn't know what she was doing and she's very confused right now.<br><br>Did I just married a woman that is used to cheating on her partners? How do I know if she's being honest with me? Should I just leave her? But then what? Who's gonna take care of my kids? My mom? But for how long? I'm also scared of leaving my kids with my wife while I'm at work.<br><br>I also just found out she's been having an emotional affair with a man from her hometown for a really long time and they even had phone sex in front of my daughter.<br><br>She's trying to make me feel bad about this situation by making it seem like I should be ashamed of leaving her alone at home with the kids, but the truth is that I work very hard to provide everything for them so they can have the best life possible and she is the one that chose to cheat and destroy our relationship.<br><br>I don't know what more to do, I'm heartbroken. A part of me wants her out of my life forever, but I also feel really sorry for her since she's been through a lot and I don't want her to be alone.<br><br>I also don't want to live my life thinking "what if?".<br><br>PD: Apparently they've been having an affair since February.<br><br>\*Update: I just found some texts of my cousin's mom asking him if she could trust my wife, since she had an affair with her then-husband's cousin. Hopefully this is not true.