My (22f) boyfriend (24m) told me he would always want a paternity test for any kids he has because "women are liars". How serious was he and what, if anything, should I do about it?
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Pretty much as I said in the title. We have been together for 2 years and things are good, but yesterday we were talking about our futures and I told him I don't want kids. He said he does and we talked a bit. I asked if he is worried about things like sectile anaphylaxis or any other genetic things he may pass on to a hypothetical child since there has been a lot of sectile anaphylaxis in his family. He said it's not a 100% hereditary condition (I know it's not) and he isn't too worried about it. I said it's better to be safe than sorry and he said it's not something he's actively worried about. I then asked if he worries about that stuff with other people because this is something you should establish fairly early in a relationship if you want kids. He said he always tells people he wants kids and then checks their family history for anything they may pass on, all girls apparently like the idea of having kids and then he goes on to say some pretty horrible things about women and how he doesn't trust them. I told him to stop and he said one more thing: if he ever has kids he will always get a paternity test. In fact he said he won't even let the child call him dad until it is proven. I asked why. He said because "women are liars". I told him that's a horrible thing to say and multiple women must have hurt him in the past for him to make such a horrid generalization. He said I was making a huge deal out of nothing and I asked what he would think if I said that type of statement about men. He just kept saying I was making a big deal out of nothing and I was getting mad over nothing. <br><br>Now I don't know what to do because he went and said all those horrid things about women but then said I'm making a big deal over nothing. I have been trying to forget about it but it's been pulling at my heart and I keep thinking about it. I'm considering breaking up with him but I'm not sure. I feel like I'm making a big deal over nothing at this point like he said. But I'm scared because a child really, really is for life and if he's this serious he may not even let our child get close to him. I really do not want kids and if I had one with him and he acted like that I think it may actually break me. But I'm not sure what to do. I feel like I'm blowing this way out of proportion at this point. I don't want to be that dramatic girlfriend but I don't know what else to think of this. Also, am I overreacting over him saying women are liars? He didn't say all women are liars but said women are liars but I'm not sure if that makes it any better. Should I talk to him about this, ignore it and move on, or get a new boyfriend? I am really torn on this.<br><br>Edit: for clarity I do not have any children with my boyfriend and I do not want any. I'm not sure why some people are accusing me of lying about my age and/or lying to my boyfriend about the paternity of a child I have. I am 22 years old and I do not have any children. I am firm in never wanting kids and my boyfriend wants kids. That's why I brought it up originally.
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