My girlfriends (27F) body count is way too high. How to navigate this? I (28M) want to break up with her, but I feel guilty because it’s been the best year of my life, and I love her so much.
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I don’t know how to navigate this, because on one hand I’m so happy. On the other hand I’m so disappointed, frustrated and disgusted. I’m planning on breaking up with her.<br><br>When we met I thought she was a virgin, I even asked, and she said she was. When I got to know her better I asked again, and she said 2. One was her ex boyfriend the other her friend. That kind of hurt, but I believed her.<br><br>Well 3 weeks ago we were hanging out and she told me she had a friend who was a bit of a sexual predator. He went after every girl and would even sexually harass them and touch them if he got away with it. I asked her what happened with them and she said that he tried to perv on her but she said no. Then I asked her if they ever fucked, and she said yes. I was shocked, I asked her how many guys she had been with and she said 5. Then I asked for details and it went like this: <br><br>1. Her first was her ex boyfriend. I asked her if she was in love with him. She said that she wasn’t, but that she wanted to “try it out” so she could see what she liked. She said that the sex was “meh” and that she faked her orgasm. Then she said “I didn’t like him that much, but it was good to get it over with”. I was disappointed because I thought she was saving herself for the one, but instead it was with someone she didn’t even like that much. <br><br>2. Her friend, that she hooked up with whenever they drank. She said “we were each others sloppy seconds when we were drunk”. The sex was apparently once again unfulfilling. <br><br>3. Her best friends ex boyfriend. She said that they’d been flirting for years, and they finally hooked up a year ago. They went to a hotel and she stayed with him for 3 days. She said that she wanted to explore her sexuality, so she tried anal, choking, and several kinks with him. She said that she didn’t like anal, but that traditional sex with him was nice. She also said that he had a big dick, which I found very disrespectful towards me to be honest. <br><br>4. A guy from work. Apparently he went after her for years and got her when she was in a vulnerable state. She said that she regrets it but I think she’s just trying to make me feel better. She said that he was small and unattractive. <br><br>5. Her best friend. Apparently they were drunk and made out, and then her best friend wanted to try out some things in the bedroom. She said that they scissored and stuff, and that the sex was nice, but not as good as with guys. <br><br>6. And then there’s me.<br><br>So that list hurt me, but what hurt me even more was that she lied so much. She was so ashamed, and she had to know that I’d be hurt, because I had already expressed that I valued loyalty, faithfulness and waiting for the one above other things. I feel like she knew that I would be hurt so she lied to me. <br><br>Especially because she told me she was a virgin. She had no reason to believe I thought otherwise. I even asked her directly. <br><br>This experience has been so disheartening. I feel so betrayed by her lies, and I feel disgusted by her past. I know it’s not her fault that I feel like this. But I can’t help myself. I love her so much. I have never been this happy. I’ve never had a better relationship, she’s such a caring and loving person. We fit each other so well, and I feel like we’re meant for each other. <br><br>I want to let go of my feelings and stay with her. But I just can’t. Right now I’m pretending everything is fine, but I’m planning on breaking up in a few weeks. Should I do it now? How do I navigate this?
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