I think my dad killed himself because of my mom.

My dad was diagnosed with cancer back in 2017, he went through chemo for about a year, and then he went into remission. My parents live in the US and I was in Canada for school. My mom had the opportunity to retire early and she wanted to move back to our home country. My dad didn’t want to do it because he didn’t trust the healthcare system there and wanted to stay near his doctors but my mom won in the end because she complained a lot to my family about how she wanted to retire and be close to her family. I had to stay behind to finish school and my younger sister went with them. I was only able to visit maybe 2 or 3 times a year because of school and work commitments. <br><br>Fast forward to 2020 and my mom keeps getting in arguments with my dad, I’m not really sure what it’s about but I think she wants him to sell his side business in the US and he doesn’t want to do it because he thinks she’s being irrational. Also, my sister was going to university in our home country and she was living in an apartment by herself and my mom complained a lot about that, I think she wanted my sister to live with them but my sister liked having her own place and my dad was on her side. <br><br>In January 2021 my dad had a seizure and was diagnosed with stage 4 brain cancer. The doctor only gave him a few months to live. The cancer had already spread to other parts of his body and he didn’t qualify for surgery. My mom insisted that my sister move in with them and also that I move back to live with them. My sister lived with them from February to July but then she moved back to her apartment. I had to stay until the end of the school year. My mom started a fight with my sister over dinner and my sister said she was going back to her apartment in July because she couldn’t live with my mom anymore. My dad told my mom to stop being so mean to my sister and my mom accused him of picking sides and said he was a failure as a husband and a father. My dad didn’t say anything after that but my sister left to go back to her apartment. My mom also accused my dad of spoiling me because I was going to get an American green card while my sister had to live in our home country.<br><br>Anyway I moved in with them in August 2021. My dad had chemo but he wasn’t doing well at all. He couldn’t walk, everything he ate made him throw up, and he was losing weight and teeth. My mom kept complaining about how she was tired of taking care of him and how he was just becoming a burden. I tried to change his diapers and wipe him but she said that was her job. At one point she wanted to take him to some sort of doctor in another city but my dad didn’t want to go, she started yelling at him and calling him a baby and he started crying. I tried to help him but she told me to stay out of it. <br><br>Then she dragged him to some sort of spiritual ceremony where they burned some of his stuff and she kept saying “you’re so lucky I take care of you, you can’t do anything for yourself anymore”. I didn’t go to the ceremony because I thought it sounded like some kind of scam. My dad was crying the whole time she was burning his stuff, I don’t know why she took him there. <br><br>I think he killed himself because of her. One morning he didn’t come downstairs for breakfast and we found him dead in his room. The doctor said he died from asphyxiation and my mom was crying but I think it was fake. She was already talking about all the money she was going to get from his insurance and pension. I didn’t stay for the whole funeral, I left when they put him in the grave. <br><br>I live with my sister now, she’s back in university but she’s coming home for holidays. I’m moving back to the US in January. My mom said she feels bad that my dad spoilt me so much and that now I’m too Americanized and I don’t care about my family. Honestly, she can fuck off.