The reality of being a woman is exhausting and it really pisses me off.

I don't want to have to plan every aspect of my life in order to stay safe. I don't want to have to leave a night out early because I am afraid of not being able to find my way home if I drink too much. I don't want to have to carry weapons with me just to feel safe. I don't want to constantly be told not to drink too much because I might get assaulted/drugged. I don't want to have to do breeding math in my head to figure out if I'd be able to afford to have a kid if I get pregnant unexpectedly. I don't want to have to worry about never having found out my brother had major heart defects because he was stillborn and no one figured it out until much later. I don't want to have a pap smear and be told I have irregular cells that are certain to progress to cancer if left unchecked. I don't want to have to worry about what I am wearing when I go outside; I don't want to not be able to walk a dog without being catcalled. <br><br>I don't want to have to police my diet and exercise and sleep because I know my health will decline when I hit menopause. I don't want to have to worry about osteoporosis and broken hips when I'm old. I don't want to get talked down to at work just because I'm a young female. I don't want to have to bring my husband along to get anything accomplished at the mechanic/Dollar Store/other businesses because they don't want to listen to me and only respect my husband's opinion. I don't want to get asked (at a bachelorette party, mind you) if I am going to be a "good girl this weekend and not get too sloppy". I don't want to have to get invited out for dinner a second time because I initially declined, only to have the friend I decline ask what my husband thinks. I don't want to have to worry about the cost of a parking spot when I go to a concert so I don't have to walk.<br><br>I don't want to have to get microblading and chemical peels and go to the salon twice a month and get my eyebrows done and my lashes done. I don't want to have to look at my skin everyday and see the wrinkles that are taking over my face. I don't want to have to deal with acne scars or adult acne or be afraid to go outside without makeup. I don't want to have to plan my entire vacation around getting my eyebrows done because they won't last long enough to make the trip. I don't want to feel ugly and inadequate every time I go to the mall/grocery store and see every girl there with eyebrows that are way better than mine. I don't want to have to spend so much money and time on my brows or eyelashes or teeth whitening or hair dye. I hate that I care and I hate that I let these superficial things bother me. I hate that I feel inadequate when my husband or daughter are complimented and I am not. I hate that I feel like I have to respond by belittling them so I can feel better about myself.<br><br>I don't want to have to let my brother live in our house without paying rent because "it's harder to be a guy". I don't want to have to hear that feminism is irrelevant. I don't want to have to be taught how to change my oil because it's not feminine. I don't want to have to learn how to tie a tie because it's not feminine. I don't want to have to worry about the cost of wanting to have kids; I don't want to have to be told not to open my own business because it is too hard to be a business owner and a parent. I don't want to have to be told I should consider opening a business because I can work around my child's schedule. I don't want to have to budget in paying for childcare when I want to have a career.<br><br>I don't want to have to be taught how to do my hair and makeup and how to cook and bake and clean and all of the other things that I am expected to know. I don't want to be judged for not knowing how to do these things. I don't want to have to get excited about having a kitchenaid stand mixer. I am expected to do all of the cooking and baking and cleaning and still have a career and be a good mother and a good wife. I don't want to have to be a gold digger or a nurse. I don't want to be a stay at home mom that leeches off of my husband when I am educated and capable of getting a job. I don't want to be expected to get a job and then also cook and bake and clean when I get home. I don't want to be expected to have dinner on the table for my husband and kids. <br><br>I don't want to be called a bitch for not filling the role that has been created for me. I don't want to be called a bitch for filling the role that has been created for me, and I don't want to have a man tell me that I can't be upset about it. I don't want to be called a bitch for wanting to be treated equally. I don't want to be called a bitch because my husband thinks I am an angel. I don't want to be called a bitch for not being subservient. I don't want to be called a bitch for being subservient. I don't want to be called a bitch because I don't want to have sex all of the time. I don't want to be called a bitch for wanting to have sex. <br><br>I hate that my gender is just assumed to be a bitch. I hate that my gender is just assumed to be dumb and ignorant. I hate that my gender is just assumed to be weak and fragile. I hate that my gender is expected to have children and take care of the kids. I hate that my gender is discriminated against at work. I hate that my gender is seen as the damsel that always needs to be rescued. I hate that my gender is just assumed to be some sort of dumb housewife.