My (30F) Husband (39M) has rarely been home and it's been affecting me so I told him it has to stop. He says it's putting a lot of pressure on me

My husband and I are both in different careers and both work a lot. My work schedule is more rigid than my husbands, and my schedule can vary rarely. I have 2 kids, last one is 2 years old so I'm still breast feeding her.<br><br>My husband has been working rarely from home since COVID started. He has to travel a lot for work and it is not a issue for me, but what is putting a lot of pressure on me is when he is at home but still work rarely from home. He is at 30 minutes driving from home, and he goes to the office every day, unless he has to go to a meeting outdoors in which case he doesn't come home to pick up his car and just goes directly to the meeting location, but I would say 80% of the time he just goes to the office.<br><br>He has to work 8 hours a day, 5 days a week. I work 12 hours a day, 6 days a week. And no, neither of us has any intention to change our careers. I have to drop off the kids at 7am, and I have to pick them up at 5PM. Most days I don't even get home until 8PM, and I have to start work again at 10PM. So technically I'm working 12 hours a day, but sometimes I have to work more hours during the day if something urgent comes up and there is no one else to do it, it is my responsibility so I have to do it. I have to do the house chores, cook, clean, take care of the kids solo and I'm a breastfeeding mom. I'm tired already, and having to take care of the kids without any support is really really taking a toll on me.<br><br>We talked about him having to stay home more frequently as I'm really struggling, I don't have any help, the kids are still too young and I'm already exhausted. And he says that him having to stay home more frequently is putting a lot of pressure on him and he doesn't like it.<br><br>I don't know what to do or how to approach this. I understand it is not ideal for him, but to be honest I'm not really caring if it is ideal or not for him right now. I'm too tired, stressed and burnt out to care if he feels uncomfortable about having to stay home more frequently, I'm barely coping. I told him I can't keep going like this, and I would like for him to see if he can stay home more. He told me I'm putting him in a tight spot because I'm telling him he has to stay home more, and that isn't something he wants to do because it doesn't look good for his career. And I told him that what I need to do to work is to be at home, and it is not ideal for me either but I still have to do it. He says it is not the same, but I don't see how. Most of the times when he goes to the office he doesn't even talk to anyone and he is doing the exact same work he does from home.<br><br>I told him that we can arrange something, like one or 2 days a week he stays home. But he doesn't want to, and I'm seriously considering looking for help next year. I cannot afford it now, but I'd rather pay somebody than having to go through this alone. We(the family) are financially comfortable, but not wealthy. Most of our savings go into my business.<br><br>We both work a lot, but we both chose our careers and we are used to it. However, I never expected to have to raise our kids alone. He used to help me more until a few months ago, and now I'm doing it all myself. And I'm tired of it, I want help. I don't know what else to say to him. I don't want to be mean, but I'm struggling and I'm asking for help.<br><br>Can somebody please help me? What can I say to him? What can I do about this?<br><br>**TL;DR:** My husband could work from home but he refuses rarely to, and it's affecting me as I have to care for the 2 kids alone, I'm already tired and burnt out and I'm asking for his help