I got divorced after 16 years of marriage because I wasn't the best dad and I had no drive to improve.

I (40m) have been divorced for 2 months now. My wife (40f) and I have three kids. Two of our daughters are 15 and 13 years old and our youngest son is 8. I've never been much of a husband and father. My ex says that I have no drive to improve on that. I know I'm not the best dad or husband, but I can't seem to get any momentum behind me to improve. I do the bare minimum and then spend the rest of my time playing video games or watching TV. <br><br>My ex says that I need to get a job or something besides gaming and watching TV, but I feel like it would be pointless. I've worked at a job for years and never felt fulfilled or satisfied. I think a lot of my problems stem from the fact that my parents divorced when I was 9. I didn't have the best relationship with my dad after the divorce and he was never present in my life. <br><br>My dad is 53m. He has been divorced twice and has no desire to ever get married or have kids. He says that he had his chance and he doesn't want to have to deal with the hassle of kids or a wife again. My parents divorced because of how much my father hated my mother. I guess they didn't see eye to eye on some things, but I don't really know the details. My father has never been much of a father to me. He has never helped me move into an apartment or house, he has never helped me buy a car, and he has never helped me pay for anything. I'm pretty sure I'm not the only guy who is going to end up divorced because of the example my dad set for me. I've never had any kind of positive relationship with women and I've always felt like I have no drive or motivation to improve my life.<br><br>What's an advice for a guy who has no drive or motivation to improve his life?