If you're in a marriage where you don't want to leave and your wife is pregnant

So I am not in this situation but have many friends in this situation and I am going to give some advice based on my own experiences.<br><br>First of all, you need to consider what the best outcome is. If you stay and try to be the best husband you can be, it is likely you will never get married again. And that's okay, because you are still going to be a parent. It's a lot more difficult to raise children if you are not married and have no other children or parents to help you.<br><br>Also, if your wife is pregnant, she is more attractive. I know it sounds weird but she will look more beautiful to other men, and if you are a gypsy or from a third world country, that can be enough to attract another man to marry you. This doesn't mean she is attractive to you, but you're probably just used to it.<br><br>If you stay and try to be the best husband you can be, she will look more attractive to other men. So you will not have to deal with catcalls or women trying to hit on you, because she will look so beautiful to every man you meet.<br><br>Also, you can go NC at any time. This is usually difficult but if you are feeling overwhelmed by her drama, it's better to go NC and let her figure out how to deal with it. She will likely come crawling back to you. I know I would.<br><br>Also, your wife will never understand how hard it is for you. You will have to deal with PMS, mood swings, and all of that stuff. She will be so self absorbed that she won't care and she will blame you for it.<br><br>You will have to deal with her BPD, if she has it. She will probably make you get her food, help her with her makeup, help her get ready for a date. She will probably try to get you to wear a skirt or dress to go on a date with her.<br><br>You will have to deal with all of her drama, including her BPD and her narcissistic personality. You will also have to deal with the drama from her side of the family. You may have to deal with her family trying to get you to help them with financial problems.<br><br>You will have to deal with her lack of discipline and how she won't help you with chores or discipline your kids.<br><br>You will also have to deal with her lack of intelligence. If she is not very smart and has never been educated, she will probably not understand how you can make money. And she will never be interested in learning.<br><br>You will have to deal with her lack of emotional intelligence. She will not understand how you feel. She will not understand how to help you deal with difficult situations. And she will probably try to hurt you emotionally, intentionally or unintentionally.<br><br>You will have to deal with her lack of empathy. If you have a bad day, she will probably make you feel worse. If you are sad or depressed, she will probably make you feel even sadder or more depressed.<br><br>You will have to deal with her lack of loyalty. She will probably cheat on you and she will probably try to get you to cheat on her. If she does cheat, she will try to blame you.<br><br>You will have to deal with her lack of responsibility. If she has a job, she will not understand what it means to work. She will probably think that she should get a raise every time you do.<br><br>You will have to deal with her lack of responsibility as a mother. She will probably not breast feed your child, she will probably not change your child's diapers, and she will probably not wash your child's clothes. She will probably not understand how to take care of a baby.<br><br>You will have to deal with her lack of responsibility as a housewife. She will probably not cook your meals, she will probably not clean your house, and she will probably not wash your clothes.<br><br>You will also have to deal with her lack of responsibility as a wife. She will probably not understand how to communicate effectively with you. She will probably not understand how to show you respect. And she will probably try to get you to do everything for her.<br><br>You will also have to deal with her lack of responsibility as a girlfriend. She will probably try to get you to do everything for her. She will probably not understand how to show you respect. And she will probably try to manipulate you.<br><br>You will also have to deal with her lack of responsibility as a friend. She will probably not understand how to show you friendship. She will probably not understand how to communicate effectively with you. And she will probably try to manipulate you.<br><br>You will also have to deal with her lack of responsibility as a mother figure. She will probably not understand how to help you raise your children. She will probably not understand how to discipline your children. And she will probably not understand how to teach your children important values.<br><br>You will also have to deal with her lack of responsibility as a grandmother. She will probably not understand how to help you raise your grandchildren. She will probably not understand how to discipline your grandchildren. And she will probably not understand how to teach your grandchildren important values.<br><br>You will also have to deal with her lack of responsibility as an aunt. She will probably not understand how to help your siblings raise their children. She will probably not understand how to discipline your siblings' children. And she will probably not understand how to teach your siblings' children important values.<br><br>You will also have to deal with her lack of responsibility as a sister. She will probably not understand how to help you with your problems. She will probably not understand how to communicate effectively with you. And she will probably try to manipulate you.<br><br>You will also have to deal with her lack of responsibility as a mother to her mother's children. She will probably not understand how to help her mother raise her siblings. She will probably not understand how to discipline her mother's children. And she will probably not understand how to teach her mother's children important values.<br><br>You will also have to deal with her lack of responsibility as an aunt to her mother's children. She will probably not understand how to help you help your mother raise her siblings. She will probably not understand how to discipline your mother's children. And she will probably not understand how to teach your mother's children important values.<br><br>You will also have to deal with her lack of responsibility as a cousin to her mother's children. She will probably not understand how to help you raise your mother's children. She will probably not understand how to discipline your mother's children. And she will probably not understand how to teach your mother's children important values.<br><br>You will also have to deal with her lack of responsibility as a cousin to her father's children. She will probably not understand how to help you raise your father's children. She will probably not understand how to discipline your father's children. And she will probably not understand how to teach your father's children important values.<br><br>You will also have to deal with her lack of responsibility as a cousin to her father's siblings' children. She will probably not understand how to help you raise your father's siblings' children. She will probably not understand how to discipline your father's siblings' children. And she will probably not understand how to teach your father's siblings' children important values.<br><br>You will also have to deal with her lack of responsibility as a cousin to her mother's siblings' children. She will probably not understand how to help you raise your mother's siblings' children. She will probably not understand how to discipline your mother's siblings' children. And she will probably not understand how to teach your mother's siblings' children important values.<br><br>You will also have to deal with her lack of responsibility as a second cousin to her mother's children. She will probably not understand how to help you raise your second cousin. She will probably not understand how to discipline your second cousin. And she will probably not understand how to teach your second cousin important values.<br><br>You will also have to deal with her lack of responsibility as a second cousin to her mother's siblings' children. She will probably not understand how to help you raise your mother's siblings' children. She will probably not understand how to discipline your mother's siblings' children. And she will probably not understand how to teach your mother's siblings' children important values.<br><br>You will also have to deal with her lack of responsibility as a second cousin to her father's siblings' children. She will probably not understand how to help you raise your father's siblings' children. She will probably not understand how to discipline your father's siblings' children. And she will probably not understand how to teach your father's siblings' children important values.<br><br>You will also have to deal with her lack of responsibility as a second cousin to her mother's children. She will probably not understand how to help you raise your mother's children. She will probably not understand how to discipline your mother's children. And she will probably not understand how to teach your mother's children important values.<br><br>You will also have to deal with her lack of responsibility as a second cousin to her father's children. She will probably not understand how to help you raise your father's children. She will probably not understand how to discipline your father's children. And she will probably not understand how to teach your father's children important values.<br><br>You will also have to deal with her lack of responsibility as a third cousin to her mother's children. She will probably not understand how to help you raise your third cousin. She will probably not understand how to discipline your third cousin.