I (30f) am really unhappy with how my husband (31m) interacts with my daughter (8f) who has really bad anxiety.

I adopted my daughter when she was 4 years old and married my husband when she was 6. My daughter has always had really bad anxiety (along with some other issues) and is in therapy. <br><br>My husband grew up in a very abusive home and is also in therapy. He has a lot of trouble interacting with my daughter and (in my opinion) tends to punish her a little too harshly for things. stuff like if she gets upset and turns away from him and starts crying, he says things like “I wasn’t done with you” and will drag her back over to him. If we are out in public he will physically take her outside (like by the ear) to discipline her and will sometimes even smack her or hit her surname lightly. I have asked him not to do these things, but he says this is how he was raised and that it is normal. I was not raised this way and I disagree with it. He got mad at this and said that he is a good father and that I can’t question how he parents because he knows more about raising children than I do.<br><br>I am unhappy with the way he treats my daughter but I don’t know what to do. <br><br>He is otherwise a good husband.