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My boyfriend of 5 years asked me to fly to Greece, Turkey, Egypt, and South Africa for 2 weeks. I don't have the money so I said no

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**TL;DR**: My boyfriend wants to take a trip of a lifetime. I'm out of my savings after all the COVID lockdowns/layoffs. I said it wasn't in my budget. He went ahead to book the ticket anyway and then got mad that I didn't want to go, saying that I don't want to spend time with him or something. Is this something I should just suck up and go on?<br><br>\---------------------------<br><br>So my boyfriend of 5 years loves to travel. We met in a foreign country while I was on a study abroad program and he was working an internship. We clicked and eventually moved back to our home country together. We've explored a lot of places together including part of Central America and the West Coast in the US. We also have plans to explore more of our home country. But he's always been someone who wants to go on a big trip across seas. He's been talking about this since before we even started dating. <br><br>He always wanted to go on a trip to Greece, Turkey, Egypt, and South Africa. The whole trip would last around 3 weeks and would cover a lot of historical sites and cities. He told me that he wanted to go on this trip before he turned 28. He turned 27 last year so this idea has been brought up a lot lately. <br><br>I told him that I was hesitant about such a long trip over seas. I was hoping we could explore more of our home country first. Or if we really wanted to travel abroad, go to Mexico or Costa Rica. I'm not big on long-distance flights even though I've done it plenty of times. <br><br>He said that he understood but still wanted to go. He wanted me to go with him since I was his girlfriend and he didn't want to go alone. I said I couldn't afford it. The trip was very pricey. It didn't help that I was unemployed for several months of 2020 due to the lockdowns and was forced to live off my savings. <br><br>He went ahead to book a ticket anyway and told me that he got a good price. I said that the ticket was pricey and I couldn't afford it. He told me that he would pay for everything on the trip. I wasn't comfortable with that at all. I didn't want to feel like I owed him money or anything. Plus I didn't want to leave without paying for my airline ticket or hotel stay. I felt like that was a big red flag. I told him I couldn't go. He went silent and then told me that he thought I was an adventurous person and enjoyed traveling with him. He accused me of not wanting to spend time with him. <br><br>I told him that I just didn't want to go on this trip. I didn't want to go on a big trip across seas yet and I was low on money. I tried to assure him that I of course wanted to spend time with him but that this trip was not in my budget. He said that I was being worrisome over money and didn't know how to have fun. I told him that I couldn't go and he should go without me. He's been acting cold to me since then. Do I suck it up and go or just break it off with him? I don't think he's being reasonable.

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