I'm going to speak at a high school about incel

I'm a highschool teacher. A student of mine wrote an essay on a piece of history in the early 20th century called the suffragette movement in which he made an analogy between the suffragettes and the incel movement, claiming that our movement will take off in the same way and that we'll see more violence in the future as a result. <br><br>The teacher was very alarmed about this and it was brought to me as I'm also an incel. What this teacher wanted me to do is a conversational seminar in which I speak to the students about inceldom. The idea is that I'd go in there, explain reasons why I'm an incel, explain reasons why it's not generally okay and speak about ways I personally cope. I want to make it very clear that I do NOT condone any violence or hatred towards normies and that I very much believe in treating women (and everyone) with respect. Just because you're an ugly, socially inept low status male doesn't mean you should act like an asshole. I'm just going to put down below what I've written down so far:<br><br>---<br><br>Hi there. First off, I just want to make it clear that I do not condone violence or hatred of any kind and I do believe that everyone deserves to be treated with respect. With that being said, I am what you call an "incel", or someone who is InVoluntarily Celibate.<br><br>Now, I know a lot of you have heard about incels in the media. There have been plenty of shootings, stabbings, and other violent events committed by people who call themselves incels. Going by those events alone, you would think that we're all a bunch of losers, but that's not true. A lot of people who call themselves incels don't believe in violence. There's this huge dichotomy in the media where we're all considered to be violent monsters, but that's not the case. There's a difference between being an incel and being someone who calls themselves an incel. <br><br>So, I want to first talk a little bit about why I consider myself an incel. I've never had a girlfriend. I've never even come close to having a girlfriend. In highschool, I had a crush on a girl. I thought she was perfect. At the time, I was young enough to believe that looks didn't matter to women. I went up to her, talked to her, confessed I had a crush, and she said no. She gave me the old "you're a really nice guy, but..." line. I respected that. My point in bringing it up is that even at a young age, I knew that if I had the option to choose, I wouldn't choose someone like me. So, I don't really see a problem with her rejecting me. But it still hurt. It made me feel worthless. It made me feel like I wasn't good enough. It made me very self conscious about my appearance. <br><br>I did a little exercise in which I went through every picture from that time in our lives and cataloged every flaw I saw. I ended up with a list of over forty reasons why I'm ugly. It really messed with my head. I knew right then and there that in the dating game, I was at a huge disadvantage. I was at a huge disadvantage socially, too. I'm not good with people. I'm not charismatic. I'm socially awkward. I have a hard time speaking. I don't know how to make friends. <br><br>These are the very reasons why a lot of people consider themselves incels. We're not just a bunch of neckbearded losers living in our parent's basement who can't get laid. We're regular people. Some of us are even successful, but we usually have a hard time socially and most of us are ugly. I recall this one story in which a guy who had no legs, was disfigured in one of his eyes and had severe burns on his body went up to a girl and confessed his love to her... and she said no. Was that fair? That's a pretty fucked up thing to do, but she did it. The reason she did it is because humans are wired to look for people who are genetically fit. Humans are wired to look for people who are capable of producing healthy offspring. This is not something that we are aware of, but it's a big motivator for why people make decisions about relationships. Let me illustrate this with an example. <br><br>Let's say you're a girl and you're at the park. At this park, you meet two guys. The first is a very socially attractive man who's good looking, tall and strong, has a lot of friends, a good career and a lot to offer. The second man is ugly and socially inept. He works a low wage job and he has nothing to offer you at all, but he's very kind. If you're being completely honest with yourself, which would you rather date? If you're like the rest of the world, you'd choose the first man. Why? Because you're wired to want to have a partner who can produce healthy offspring and provide for you and your children. This is humanity on its most base, animal level. It's not something that you think about on a conscious level, but it's a very strong motivator for humans. <br><br>This is why a lot of people consider themselves incels. If you're socially inept or ugly, then you're at a huge disadvantage in the dating game. By extension, you're also at a disadvantage in life. What people don't understand is that having a romantic partner is generally considered a basic human right. It's a basic human need in the same way that food, water and shelter are. That's why a lot of incels are angry. We are angry at our situation. I very much believe that everyone deserves a partner, and I think that it's fucked up that some people like me don't get one. Some people will say "well, it's not like you can't have sex. You can just go out and buy it". <br><br>That is not true. First off, I don't have enough money for that. Second off, even if I did... there's a huge difference between having sex and having a partner. If you're someone who has never even had a partner, then you'll know what I'm talking about. Having a partner is about way more than just the physical act. It's about being with someone who cares about you. It's about having someone who you can be your true self around. It's about having someone who you can speak your mind around and be accepted for who you are. That's not something you can buy. I personally don't care about physical appearance. I don't care if someone is ugly. But I do want someone who I can connect with on a deep level. Someone who I can speak my mind around. Someone who I can be myself around and feel no fear of being rejected.<br><br>With all this being said, I do not condone violence. I do not condone hatred. I do not condone being a dick to people or treating people poorly. Yes, I'm angry. Yes, I'm bitter. I generally try to keep that to myself though. I try to be as respectful as possible to everyone I meet. I try to be as compassionate and empathetic as I can be towards everyone. I'm not going to lie and say that I don't slip up sometimes. But when I do, it's not because I'm an incel, it's because I'm human. We all have flaws and we all mess up sometimes. <br><br>So, in conclusion... That's why I consider myself an incel. I know I'm not the only one in this room who feels this way. I want you to know that if you're in the same situation, it's okay. There are plenty of us out here who are in your shoes. You're not alone. I've met plenty of people like me. Some of them are very nice, some of them aren't. Some of them cope well, and some of them cope poorly. But we're all human beings just like everyone else, and we deserve to be treated with respect. I'm not asking for much. I'm not asking for you to babysit me or coddle me or anything like that. All I'm asking is that you respect me as a human being and treat me as such. <br><br>That's all. <br><br>---<br><br>I want to make it clear that I do not condone any violence towards women, and that I believe everyone deserves to be treated with respect. I feel like this may be a good opportunity to show kids what it's actually like to be an incel, and what it's like to be an ugly person who will probably never find love.