Is it worth trying to start a family

I (M35) have been in a long term relationship with my SO (F30). I love her and she loves me but I just don't see us getting married. We have been together for 13 years and I've told her several times that if we ever did get married it would be in a foreign country or somewhere I've always wanted to go but not here in the US. She has her reasons for not wanting to leave the US but I think that's a different story for another day.<br><br>I have a good paying job and we have a nice life but I'm not sure if it's worth the risks to start a family. I have a very young niece that I look after from time to time and I don't think I could handle having kids of my own. I'm also not sure if I would be a good dad. I would want to home school our kids and I don't think she would be into that. I don't think I could afford to home school without losing my job but that would just be the tip of the iceberg of problems.<br><br>I know if we had a baby together she would want to stay a SAHM. My parents had a very old school traditional relationship. My dad worked and my mom stayed home. She didn't work outside the house until I was about to graduate high school. I would want the same for me and my kids. I would want our kids to be homeschooled and have a mother at home.<br><br>My biggest problem with the US is the divorce rate. I'm not sure I could handle going through that. My parents were married over 50 years. I think the longest marriage I know of in my family is around 70 years but I don't have all the details. I know a lot of couples who have been married for over 50 years and still going strong. I would like to be in a relationship like that but I don't see it happening here. I know I would just be living in limbo waiting for the other shoe to drop. <br><br>I also think if we did get married and have a kid together she would want to move to the suburbs. I like city life. I would hate leaving the city behind.<br><br>I know if we broke up I would have to pay child support and I'm not sure how I would handle that. I think I could afford it now but I'm not sure I could in the future. I don't want to be in a position where I'm forced to choose between paying child support and putting food on the table. I don't think the US justice system treats men fairly in divorce and child support situations. I've seen stories online of men being sent to jail for not being able to pay their child support on time.<br><br>I know all these things may not happen but the risk of them happening is too great for me. I love her and I know she would be a good mother to our kids but I don't think we are compatible enough to make it through all the ups and downs of life. I think I'm just afraid of losing her one day. I'm not sure if it's fair to keep her in this position.<br><br>I'm leaning towards just remaining childfree but I'm wondering if I'm missing something.