“Choosing” your partner is really just a mental trick

I was thinking in relation to the concept of romantic love. I know that humans don’t choose their partner, we see someone and we are instantly attracted or not. If you were to be asked to choose your perfect partner you wouldn’t be able to. You’d try to do your best based on your experience but I’m really certain that you wouldn’t be able to make the perfect choice for yourself. But when we choose, it’s because we have to, the choice is a choice based on prior experiences, knowledge, etc. But what happens in love is not that, we choose to go out with someone, see that person and then fall in love. Love is an instant feeling, we are instantly drawn to someone and we can’t explain why. But we still think that we “choose” because of the choice we make of going out with them, seeing them again, and marrying them, etc. <br><br>But in the moment when we decide to choose based on our prior experiences, it’s not really our choice, it’s based on prior experiences that guide us, and it’s not us, because we are not choosing, we are acting based on past experiences, knowledge, etc. So we aren’t really choosing when it comes to love. Love isn’t a choice. I know that it’s a controversial topic but I think that what I said is true. When we say we choose to love someone we aren’t really choosing, we simply are and then we try to justify our choices, thoughts based on our experiences.