How to be attractive to a trans person? *A reply by an actual trans person*

I've seen some of you asking how to be attractive, and some comments giving advice. <br><br>I think it would be nice to hear from the horse's mouth:<br><br>**Be yourself.** Genuine people with no complexes and a lot of self love are the most attractive. We've fooled ourselves for years, to be able to be who we are. Don't *try* to be someone you're not, because even if you succeed on fooling us, you won't be able to keep up the act for long. And for the love of God, don't be afraid to show your more feminine side. We're trans, we like that kind of stuff.<br><br>**Be respectful.** Not cool with the fetishization of us and our anatomy. Very few of us are cool with that. Don't throw it in our face that "you're a chick with a dick, and I love it!" Because that's rude as all hell. And don't ever assume stuff about us. "You're so pretty, I can tell you're trans *only* because of your hands/shoulders/hips/boobs/adams apple" No, I'm not cool with that. I'm trans, and I'm a woman. Don't "justify" your attraction to my bodies *solely* because of my genitals. That's dehumanizing.<br><br>**Don't expect us to be hyper sexual.** I mean, expect it, because you can expect it, but don't be surprised if it doesn't happen. We've had to go through hell, and the majority of us don't want to be treated as a fetish. I'm not saying we're asexual, we're not, but as I said before, don't assume crap about us.<br><br>**Don't be a chaser.** If you want a relationship, be *genuine* about it. Talk to us, be friends, go out on dates. Because if you come at us with "hey, I know you're trans and I love that" we're gonna send you on your way. And don't be one of those people who only date "trans people *only*". It's fetishization, and most of us don't appreciate that. I mean, we appreciate those of you who want to date us, but don't only date us.<br><br>**Don't be afraid to show affection.** This *shouldn't* be news to you, but we trans people are actually cool with PDA. I mean, we've had to go through a shit ton to be who we are and be in the bodies we're in, with the genitals we have, so we *like* showing to the world that we're proud of who we are. Just don't be one of those people who walks down the street holding hands and scissoring. We're not cool with that. But, hey, if you're willing to show to the world who you are and who you're dating, then more power to you.<br><br>**Don't comment on our body.** Yeah. That's just rude. "Wow, your hands are so big!" "Wow, you have such a big nose!" Yeah, no. I'm well aware I have big hands and a big nose. I've lived with it for years, I'm not gonna grow a new nose or hands anytime soon, so your comment is just unnecessary.<br><br>**Don't comment on our genitals.** This one shouldn't be news to you either. I'm well aware I have a penis. I've lived with it my entire life. If I didn't want it there, I would've had it removed. Yes, we know about *all* the fetishes regarding our genitals. And, yes, *most of us* find it *incredibly offensive*. Don't comment on it, don't fetishize it, and don't even think about trying to touch it. We're not some fetish for you to fulfill.<br><br>**Don't be a "curious" person.** If you're gonna go down on me, commit. I'm not gonna let you go down on me until you're sure you wanna do it, and I'm not gonna stop you until we're both consenting. But, please, for the love of God, don't say "oh, this is *so* hot!" "This is the moment I've been waiting for!" It's rude as all hell. Yes, I'm well aware my genitals are different, and if you're gonna go down on me, you should accept that beforehand. If you don't, then we're cool, but if you do, don't make a fuss about it, just...do it.<br><br>That's pretty much it. I hope this helps!