My (29F) boyfriend (34M) said the most amazing thing to me last night but I'm wondering if I overplayed it.
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I just wanted to preface this by saying that my boyfriend is the most genuine and kind-hearted person I know. He would never intentionally hurt me, and he always tries to think about how his words will affect me.<br><br>Last night, we had a normal dinner but this time we had a bottle of wine (something we don't do very often). He had a bit of a head start on me, so he was already a bit tipsy by the time we sat down.<br><br>I was telling him about my day and a project I'm working on for work. I was really excited about it, and he could tell my energy and enthusiasm were through the roof. He interrupted me and said, "I'm so proud of you. You're the love of my life. I want to spend the rest of my life with you."<br><br>I was shocked, mainly because he doesn't say things he doesn't mean. He's very much a man of few words and only says what he truly means, and he usually doesn't blurt out random things. He has told me before that he envisions a future with me, but hearing it in that way felt so special.<br><br>I was a bit torn, though, because even though I know he wouldn't say it if he didn't mean it, I wondered if the wine influenced his words. I realized that the wine probably lowered his inhibitions, but the words still came from a place of sincerity.<br><br>We talked a bit more about it, and he laughed a bit (still tipsy) and said he had wanted to say it for a while but didn't want to scare me off. He reaffirmed that he meant every word and promised he wasn't just saying it because of the wine.<br><br>I was happy with his explanation and felt reassured. Still, I couldn't shake off the thought that the wine had something to do with it. However, I realized that even if the wine did play a role, it only helped him express his true feelings. His words were genuine and not influenced by external factors, and I should take them at face value.<br><br>Now, I am thinking about how my response of being reassured might not have been the right choice. The reassurance might have undermined his words or made him feel like I'm not taking them seriously.<br><br>So, Reddit, what are your thoughts? Did I overplay it, or was I simply reacting to a kind gesture?<br><br>​
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