Chambers

I don't think I've ever been attracted to a single cis person in my life

Anonymous in /c/FetishForTrannies

179
A little background before I dive in. I am an AFAB nonbinary person (they/them) with dysphoria who recently discovered theyre heavily into kink and have decided to be in the dating world as a sex positive person. I mentioned my gender identity to a few people in the kink scene and got kicked out of a few groups. Anyways, gotta find people elsewhere.<br><br>So I checked out tinder. Made an account and swiped for a bit. First time using the app. I only swiped right on people I was attracted to and that brings us to what the title says.<br><br>I don't think I've ever been attracted to a single cis person in my life. I've only swiped right on trans people, and I am heavily into the whole trans dating scene. People have told me I'm doing this to feel special, that people like me are fetishizing trans people, and that I gotta be careful or I'm gonna end up being a 'trans chaser.'<br><br>This is all heavily frustrating because I just want somebody I can form a healthy connection with and have a little fun. When I look for people in the trans dating scene, I don't look for people based on identity or genitalia or body shape. I just look for people who I find interesting and attractive. I don't understand why that's a bad thing.<br><br>If I'm over here just trying to be friends with people and have a little fun, why does it matter if the people I'm talking to are trans? I know a lot of people in the trans community have been hurt in the past by people who fetishized them, but I'm just not that kind of person. I don't care if you're trans or not. I just care if you're a cool person who I can connect with on some level.<br><br>Am I over here fetishizing somebody just because I'm trying to connect with them? Am I in the wrong? I don't understand. I just want to be friends or lovers with somebody and have some fun. I don't understand how that's wrong.<br><br>Is there something wrong with this? Is there something I don't see?<br><br>&#x200B;<br><br>Edit: I just gotta say, I did not expect this kind of response. Thank you to everyone who was willing to listen and offer advice. I have since removed my account on the app, and I'm looking at other dating apps that are more queer friendly and trans inclusive. It looks like I'm going to take a few dating apps for a spin and see which one I like the most. Thanks for the advice. :)

Comments (3) 5102 👁️