[Update] My girlfriend (37F) is mad that I (43M) didn’t tell her that her son (17M) was at the door

So I think there’s an update that people wanted. I didn’t intend on giving one, but I feel like I need to now. I have literally been blown away by the support I’ve gotten from this sub. It’s been unreal. I have been using Reddit for 8 years but I’ve never experienced a reaction like this before. So I need to thank everybody. All the messages of support I’ve gotten and all the PMs of people who have went through something similar. It’s all been so helpful. I want to give a big thank you to everyone.<br><br>I have gotten so many suggestions on what to do. I feel like I may have given the wrong impression by saying I want to break up with her. I think it may be a little too early for that. I just need some time. I didn’t tell her what happened to make her mad at me. I told her so she could have a talk with her son. She is still acting like I’m the bad guy though. Not once has she apologized for telling me to kick him out and not once has she apologized for telling her kids not to worry about me because I’m just some Tinder dude. I feel like I’m literally being punished for trying to help her.<br><br>Her son did end up texting me back yesterday. Apologizing and saying that he’s not mad at me at all and that he understands what I did. Him and his sister have both reached out to me and said that they don’t blame me at all for what happened. His sister has said that she wishes I would have told her because she would have let him in but she understands. <br><br>The thing that really got to me was when my girlfriend called me crying yesterday because her son won’t talk to her. She was saying how she can’t eat or sleep and she’s crying constantly because her son doesn’t want to see her. I’m like well maybe that has something to do with you calling him a piece of shit and telling him to rot outside. She said that she was just upset that he was doing this and that she didn’t mean it. But I’m over here like you didn’t deserve to be doing this. Your actions caused all this and now you’re crying to me about it. It just seems so ridiculous. She did all this and she’s crying to me about it. She refuses to apologize to me though. <br><br>Anyway. Thank you everybody. I’ve been overwhelmed by everyone’s support for me. Thank you. I appreciate it so much.