I (25M) urge my sister (24F) to date for 2 years and she’s now dating MY BEST FRIEND (27M)

Ok, bear with me and try to see from my perspective. I am very frustrated and I don’t know to how to handle this situation and I knew my sister better than to think she would do anything like this and I’m trying to be understanding while at the same time I feel utterly betrayed. So here goes nothing<br><br>My sister and I have been very close our whole lives. We come from a very conservative family and grew up with the idea of arranged marriages, though my parents were open to letting us choose. My sister and I were always there for one another and we were each other’s rock. I have been urging my sister for the past 2 years to start dating.<br><br>Growing up, I did have a crush on my sister but I knew it was one sided and I wasn’t even sure if she felt the same way. But I knew I could never reveal it to her. When I turned 18, I knew that I could never be with my sister and I knew I had to move on and that’s what I did. I started dating and I always tried to urge my sister to do the same. I always wanted her to be happy, and I wanted her to have the kind of relationship I had with my girlfriends.<br><br>In the beginning my parents were a bit hesitant but once I kept insisting, they agreed. I even threatened to move away and not come back to visit if my parents didn’t let me and my sister date. My parents were a bit surprised because while they had concerns, they didn’t believe I would go that far. After seeing how persistent I was, they agreed.<br><br>My sister, however, wasn’t so keen. She kept turning guys down and one even reported her to the police because she wasn’t interested and she kept ignoring him. She was a bit too picky and I urged her to compromise. But she didn’t.<br><br>Everything changed 4 months ago when I introduced my best friend to my sister. He wanted to meet her and while I was initially hesitant, I eventually gave in. The moment they met, I knew that something was off. They were too friendly and too comfortable with each other. I tried to brush it off but now I realize I should have trusted my gut.<br><br>My sister and my best friend started seeing each other and I knew something was off. I had never told my sister about my past feelings for her but I knew she would be able to tell. Maybe it was because I knew too much about how she ticked or maybe I just wanted to be with her. I tried to brush it off and I told myself that I was just being paranoid and that nothing was wrong.<br><br>It wasn’t until they started holding hands, kissing and having sex that I realized something was wrong. I knew I had to confront my sister and my best friend and I decided to talk to them separately.<br><br>I talked to my best friend first and I asked him how he could do this to me. He told me that he had always wanted to be with my sister and that he couldn’t help himself. He apologized and he told me that he knew I would never approve of them dating. I knew that I couldn’t be friends with him anymore and I told him that we were done.<br><br>Then I talked to my sister and I asked her if she knew how hurt I was. She told me that she didn’t know and that she thought I would be happy for her. I told her that I wouldn’t have been happy if she was with my best friend and that I would have never approved.<br><br>My sister seemed unaware of how hurt I was and she told me that she didn’t know and that she thought I would be happy. I told her that I wasn’t happy and that I couldn’t be friends with my best friend anymore. My sister told me that she would understand and she told me that she would support me.<br><br>I told my parents and they seemed unaware of how hurt I was and they told me that they would support me whatever I decided. My sister seemed sincere and she promised me that she would understand. But I knew that I couldn’t be friends with my best friend anymore and I knew that my relationship with my sister would never be the same.<br><br>I tried to brush it off and I tried to be understanding but I couldn’t shake off the feeling that my sister and my best friend had betrayed me. I knew that I couldn’t be friends with my best friend anymore and I knew that my relationship with my sister would never be the same.<br><br>I tried to talk to my sister about it and I asked her if she knew how hurt I was. She told me that she didn’t know and that she thought I would be happy for her and that she would always love me. I told her that I wasn’t happy and that I couldn’t be friends with my best friend anymore. My sister told me that she would understand and she told me that she would support me.<br><br>I tried to be understanding and I tried to be happy for my sister, but I couldn’t shake off the feeling that she and my best friend had betrayed me. I knew that I couldn’t be friends with my best friend anymore and I knew that my relationship with my sister would never be the same.<br><br>I tried to talk to my parents about it and I asked them if they knew how hurt I was. They told me that they didn’t know and that they thought I would be happy for my sister. I told them that I wasn’t happy and that I couldn’t be friends with my best friend anymore. My parents told me that they would understand and they told me that they would support me.<br><br>I tried to be understanding and I tried to be happy for my sister, but I couldn’t shake off the feeling that she, my best friend and my parents had betrayed me. I knew that I couldn’t be friends with my best friend anymore and I knew that my relationship with my sister would never be the same.<br><br>I tried to talk to my sister about it and I asked her if she knew how hurt I was. She told me that she didn’t know and that she thought I would be happy for her. I told her that I wasn’t happy and that I couldn’t be friends with my best friend anymore. My sister told me that she would understand and she told me that she would support me.<br><br>I tried to be understanding and I tried to be happy for my sister, but I couldn’t shake off the feeling that she and my best friend had betrayed me. At the end of the day, I’m left with a huge urge to fight my sister and my ex best friend. I’m left with empty feelings in my heart. I’m left with feeling betrayed by my parents. I feel like I have lost my best friend. I feel like I have lost my sister.<br><br>I don’t know how to handle this situation and I’m trying to be understanding and I’m trying to be happy for my sister, but I couldn’t shake off the feeling that she, my best friend and my parents had betrayed me. I know I’m losing and I don’t know how to win.