i am a female and i am going to tell u what you are doing wrong

hey i saw this subreddit on the front page and i have a lot of things to tell u all. ur probably gonna hate me but i'm not here to hurt ur feelings.<br><br>everytime a man opens up about being lonely or he is vulnerable about something like that, any girl in that situation would automatically reject them and say something like "oh you can't find a girl? that sucks". this is not a good approach and girls do this because of ego. this is not a good approach because a man opens up and u think that they are vulnerable and can't deal with a rejection on top of that. u shouldn't be offended, just talk to them and try to make friends, u never know what they have been through.<br><br>anyway.<br><br>this one person that i know, a good friend of mine, is an incel. he's about 26 years old, never had sex or even kissed a girl and has never had a girlfriend. he is pretty lonely and depressed, but he is a really nice guy. however, he is very insecure and he has low self esteem. he doesn't like himself and he has a lot of self hatred. he has never been called hot or anything like that his whole life. he is actually a pretty good looking guy, but because he hates himself and doesn't like how he looks, he has never approached a girl and asked her out. he thinks every girl will reject him. and when he talks to girls, he is very nervous because he thinks that he will get rejected. he has never been in a relationship so he doesn't know what to do and he has never had any experience, so he is afraid of asking girls out or flirting with them because he is afraid that he will do something embarrassing or he will do something wrong because he has no experience.<br><br>he also doesn't like approaching girls because he hates rejection and he is afraid of being told no. he is afraid of being rejected because he hates himself already and doesn't like his life, and he thinks that if he gets rejected he would go into a depression or something like that. he also hates rejection because he thinks that girls are "культурная ценность", i don't know what this is in english, but i think it means he has a lot of respect for girls. he doesn't want to hurt girls or make them angry, he doesn't want to embarrass himself, and he is afraid of ruining his pride or his ego. <br><br>i personally think he should just go for it, approach girls and ask them out, but he is afraid of rejection, and he says he won't do it and he's afraid of ruining his pride or his ego. he also thinks that he is not good enough because he is a virgin, and that girls don't want to be with him.<br><br>i think that u guys should approach girls and talk to them, u never know what will happen, but im not a guy so what do i know. just my opinion.