My wife kept negligently misfeeding our baby, so I’ve removed all access to her until high chair time.

Sorry for the long post it takes a lot to get to the point. I’ve just been extremely frustrated over the issue, and my wife is blaming me for everything. I love my wife, but am just struggling what to do when she won’t listen and it could be potentially dangerous to my child. <br><br>My wife and I have a 6 month old baby boy named Jack. After receiving advice from her parents she’s stopped breast feeding him and started formula feeding him. <br><br>Since then we’ve had some issues arise. The main issue is she keeps leaving the formula milk in the bottle too long. The formula milk by this company is supposed to be consumed within an hour of preparation. The milk is negligently left for too long, even hours after my baby boy has stopped drinking. Then it’s given to him even when it’s way past the 1-hour mark. That milk can go sour fast, and it just boggles my mind that she gives it to him anyway when it should be obvious to anyone that it’s gone bad. This has gotten to the point where the milk was left out for the entire night and I had to dump it out in the morning. She got mad that I dumped it out and told me it was fine and that milk by this brand is completely fine even when it’s left outside for more than a day. <br><br>When the baby gets hungry she just makes a bottle of formula immediately and gives it to him. I’ve had to intervene on more than one occasion where she kept preparing a bottle before the baby was hungry only for me to find it hours later. She also kept leaving the bottles on the window sill by the baby. I would find them hours late with formula in it and she’d get mad that I dumped it out. <br><br>That’s another thing when the bottle is full of formula she insists on leaving the bottle in the baby’s room by the window sill, or on the table. <br><br>The last issue is feeding the baby too much. When the baby starts to get hungry she prepares the bottle and gives it to him. She always kept insisting that she knows how much formula to put in the bottle and never will she know what she’s talking about. She’ll always tell me that she used to formula feed her little nephews and nieces back in the day. I always kept insisting on looking up how much milk should be in a bottle for the age of the baby and she’ll say it’s fine. But it always ends up too much formula for the bottle. She’ll also tell me to put in more formula when I’m preparing the bottle and I’ll say it’s enough and she’ll tell me to put more. <br><br>I’ve tried multiple times to tell her to be more careful when feeding my baby, she never listened. Instead, she would get mad at me for trying to tell her how much milk is safe for the baby to have, or dump out milk that’s hours old. I even wrote her a note of all the things she kept doing that would negligently misfeed our baby. But she gave it back to me and called me an a**hole for it. <br><br>Out of pure concern for my baby I’ve removed all access to feeding him to my wife. It’s hard by myself but I’ve managed to do it. I now prepare and feed all the bottles, breast milk by formula milk. She got mad at me and called me an overbearing father for keeping her away from feeding him when I know she’s fed him her entire life. But I got mad and said, “The way you’ve been feeding him could’ve given him diarrhea and stomach pain and how unhygienic it is to negligently misfeed him hours old milk when it should’ve been dumped out hours ago is just disgusting.” <br><br>She didn’t say anything and stormed off into her room and slammed the door. I’ve tried to apologize, but she won’t forgive me. I’ve just been extremely stressed over the issue and I don’t know what to do. That milk has gotten to the point it’s separated and she’ll still insist that it’s fine. I don’t know if it’s just pregnancy brain or what but it’s just so frustrating when she won’t listen. I just don’t want to see my baby suffer from something so simple as bottle feeding him. That’s all I care about, my baby. <br><br>How do I approach this issue without having to struggle to take care of my baby by myself? I’ve asked her to help me and she will do the bare minimum. I know she’s mad at me for what I said but it’s just frustrating when she won’t listen and it could be potentially dangerous to my child.<br><br>UPDATE: Hey, sorry for not responding. I've been busy taking care of my baby and getting him to sleep. There's a comment in this thread going around that I'm a troll. I'm not. I'm a father who loves his son very much and I'm just worried about his safety and I want it to stop. I'm not trolling or trying to attack my wife. She's a good mother and wife, it's just been frustrating lately.<br><br>I've gotten a lot of advice and I've read it all. I just want to say I appreciate all the support. And to clarify a few things. She doesn't have a baby brain. And I don't remember her telling me it was fine even after 24 hours. But I do remember her saying that it's fine even after a few hours. <br><br>And yeah, my wife isn't perfect and neither am I. I've made mistakes too and I'm not attacking her for it. She's going to make mistakes, everyone will. It's just I'm worried about my child's safety and it could be potentially dangerous if it continues like that. <br><br>As I've mentioned in some comments I'm just really stressed and by myself taking care of my baby so I could've worded things better. I'm not blaming or attacking her, I just want my child to be treated right. I'm gonna make sure to get her help by getting her to therapy, and I'll try to work things out with her. I appreciate all the comments and support I've gotten. I've read them all and yeah it's just been really hard. I'm sorry if I sounded like I was attacking her and I appreciate all the support I've gotten.<br><br>UPDATE 2: I finally sat down and talked to my wife. I told her how I felt, what I thought was wrong, and what I was afraid of. I apologized for calling her disgusting but she told me it was fine. She explained to me that when she was little her parents always told her not to waste anything because when they used to live in a communist country before they immigrated to the US they never had good food and always had to struggle to get food on the table. She told me that when it came to feeding her nephews and nieces she never had a problem. But with our baby, she just can't stand the thought of wasting anything and it's been frustrating her and she just wants to feed him. I completely understood where she was coming from. It made sense. I apologized again for what I said and she forgave me. <br><br>I told her what the bottle feeding schedule was, and what the preparation instructions were for the milk. I also showed her the instructions for it and some videos that showed how it’s done. I told her that it would be a good idea for her to get into therapy as it could potentially help her with her negligently misfeeding baby. And to my surprise she agreed. She also told me that she’s been feeling a bit unstable lately and she’s been having a hard time. She also agreed that it’s potentially dangerous to feed him hours old milk and she’ll make sure it’s fresh. And I told her that I’ll allow her to feed him the bottle but she needs to be more careful and not leave it out too long. <br><br>She completely agreed. Everything is now resolved and we’re both happy. She’s getting therapy soon and it’s all going well. I’m just glad that we’re both happy. <br><br>The problem is resolved and it’s all good. Thank you all for the support it really helped and I appreciate it.