AITA for refusing to let my husband’s brother live with us after his house catches on fire?

My husband and I own a 4 bedroom house. Two rooms are for my son and my husband’s son. We have a room for guests and an office. <br><br>The reason why I’m here is that last night my husband’s brother’s home caught on fire. He and his family (wife, teen daughter and preteen son) were out when it happened. It was a complete loss. His daughter posted on social media asking for help with basic necessities, which I could totally understand. I shared the post, sent in some money, and let them know they could count on us. And they could. <br><br>My husband came home from work acting strange. He was super quiet and assured me all was fine. He started changing his clothes and I asked him what he was up to. Turns out he was going to his brother’s home. I wasn’t surprised. I waited until he was finished getting changed and I asked him why he never let me finish. I said I was just curious about what was going on. He said he knew I wasn’t curious and that he knew I was upset. I asked what I had to be upset about and he said that he was afraid I was going to say no to his brother moving in with us until he could get back on his feet. <br><br>I was taken aback by this. I asked if he really thought that and he said yes. And it was true. I don’t want them to live with us. I’m not 100% heartless, and do plan on helping. But I don’t want to throw them under our roof. I have two kids depending on me and I don’t want to drag my kids into this. I love my brother in law and his family, but I don’t want to live with them. My husband said that he knew this would be my answer. So, he said that he and his brother have tossed around the idea of him switching careers and moving out of state to a lower cost of living area. I pressed again about what was going on. He finally told me that he told his brother and his wife that they could move in with us. <br><br>I was livid. How does he know me better than I know myself but can’t read my mind enough to know how I would react to him telling his brother they could move in with us? I was burning inside. My husband said that he knew whatever I said, I would end up changing my mind and letting them move in. I said he had no right to do that. He said he was just trying to help when he could. He said he knew I would end up saying they could move in. I asked how he knew that. I’m a confident person, but his answer truly hurt. He said that he knows I’m selfish and spoiled and that when push comes to shove I would rather have my in-laws living with us than to have them out on the streets and me feeling guilty. I’m not really sure how to feel about that. <br><br>I told him that he had no right to make that decision. I said we needed to call his brother now and fix this. He said he was just trying to help. He had already told his brother we said yes. I insisted he call them now and let them know I said no. He kept trying to delay it by saying it could wait til morning. I said that it could not. I gave him an ultimem. Call them and let them know no or sleep on the couch and have the morning to hope I don’t want a divorce. He called his brother and had the conversation. <br><br>I could hear his brother on the other end yelling. I could hear his wife crying and his kids asking what was going on. His brother asked if we could just let them stay for a week while they figure things out. I snapped and took the phone. I said no and explained that we already said yes, and then I retracted that offer so the answer was no. <br><br>His brother argued that we already said yes and we couldn’t just say no. I argued that I hadn’t said yes; I had never said they could stay. He said that he had already told people we had said yes and that they would have no where to go. I told him that wasn’t my problem. <br><br>He asked what kind of person does that. I said it was the same kind of person who accepts an invitation without actually being invited. That started another argument with my husband when he got off the phone. He said that I was awful. And I was. But at that point I really didn’t care. <br><br>Now he’s sleeping on the couch. His brother is refusing to talk to me. My husband is angry. I do feel bad, but I don’t want them living here.