AITA for telling my family that if they gift us money for our wedding, there will be no "strings attached" or we'll have to "earn it" by doing favors?

My fiance and I (both 28) are planning to get married in the spring. We've had a pretty low income, so my family stepped in to help with wedding planning and even offered to pay some of the bills.<br><br>Recently, I was talking to my cousin (f26). She got married in January, and her family (mom, dad, fiance) paid for the entire wedding. My family and I were discussing how we were struggling financially. Then I mentioned that we were going to get some money to help cover the expenses, and my cousin asked who was going to plan the wedding. I said we were sharing responsibilities, and she just looked shocked.<br><br>Then she said that since I wasn't working, I could handle the planning, and she offered to help me with the budget and other things. My fiance and I were a bit annoyed, since I don't feel like I need to be told what to do. So I told her that we appreciated it, but we wanted to do things our own way.<br><br>Later that day, I got a text from my aunt, asking if we needed help with catering. I thanked her and said we had it covered, and she asked if she could do it for free, since she wanted to contribute. I told her we appreciated the offer, but we wanted to hire professionals for the big day.<br><br>The next day, my uncle called, saying he wanted to pay for the flowers and decorations, since my mom had helped him with his previous business ventures. I thanked him, but said we wanted to use our savings for the decorations. He was a bit sad, but said he understood.<br><br>My fiance and I were happy to be doing everything on our own, but now I was worried that we were being rude and rude. My family may not be wealthy, but they've helped me in the past, and I didn't want to hurt their feelings.<br><br>So I had a talk with my mom. I told her that while I appreciated their offers, I didn't want to accept any money from them. My mom asked what I meant, and I said that if they wanted to give us money for the wedding, we shouldn't have to "earn" it by doing favors or using their services. She was very angry with me.<br><br>She said that they just wanted to help, and they didn't expect anything in return. I told her that I appreciated that, but I still didn't want their money, and I just wanted to do things our way.<br><br>After that, I noticed that my family was less involved in the wedding planning. They still offered to help with the logistical side of things, but they didn't offer to pay for anything anymore.<br><br>My fiance and I are grateful for their help, but I'm worried that I offended them. I feel like I was honest with them, but maybe I was still rude.<br><br>***ETA: My family is Mexican-American, and the culture is very big on tradition and family.*<br><br>***ETA: We're not living off my family, and we're not lazy. I wasn't clear about this, sorry. We both work full-time jobs, but we have a lot of debts and expenses. We are saving up for a house in the future, but that leaves us with little money left over. This is why we were struggling so much with the wedding costs. My cousin and her fiance were gifted with a lot of things, like cars, apartments, and a lot of money. They also come from a well off background, which I think plays a role in their experiences.***