My mom married a good man but my dad will always be my number one.

I(28m) wanted to preface this by saying I’m married to a good woman and have one daughter(5f). My mom and biological dad divorced when I was a kid and my dad got custody of me, but it was a messy divorce. My mom didn’t really have a relationship with me for the majority of my childhood due to her anger and resentment at my dad for taking me from her. Also she was married to my dad because she had to not because she wanted to and this caused a lot of tension between them and a lot of resentment, and they were constantly fighting. She tried for years to get my brother and I back but it wasn’t until I was a teenager that she actually got full custody of me. <br><br>My dad married my step mom and they had two daughter, so I had 2 sisters on top of my full bio brother. My dad was an alcoholic and was a mean drunk so my mom got full custody of me and my brother so we didn’t have to be around him. However my dad was also the sole bread winner for my family and my mom didn’t work and when we left my dad she had no money and struggled to get a job to take care of my brother and I. She quickly got pregnant with my half brother and sister but my step dad has always treated me and my brother as his own sons. <br><br>I love my dad but he is a piece of shit as a person and as a father. He was an alcoholic and a drug addict, and would spend all his money on those things and not provide for my family. I remember going weeks without eating a full meal because he spent all his money on his vices and my family would struggle to eat. My brother and I, along with our sisters had to use kerosene heaters cause he would spend the money for a real heater on drugs. I remember my dad came home one night super drunk and turned off the breaker for the entire house, he then proceed to say that he turned off the electricity to teach my brother and I a lesson because we didn’t listen to him. <br><br>My moms husband is the complete opposite of that. He would do anything for my mom, my brother, and I. He has been with my mom since I was 14 and he has taken care of me, and provided for me when my dad didn’t. He is also the reason I have such a good relationship with my mom. When he came into our lives he made my mom understand that she needed to stop being angry at my dad and be a mom, and he has been an amazing father figure to me and treated me like I’m his son even though I’m not. He taught me how to be a good man and a good dad, and I couldn’t thank him enough for everything he has done for me and my family. I would honestly say he is my dad, and my bio dad is my father. I love him more than words can express, and I don’t know where I would be without him. He’s honestly the best thing to ever happen to me and my family, and I hope he knows how much I love and appreciate him. My mom and her husband were able to adopt my brother and I when we turned 18, but we chose to keep our original last name.