SherSher Lurker

Ok, I think I’m going to be the 100th person in the last 24 hours to discuss this person. I haven’t lurkedSher as much as some have and I haven’t done a ton of digging, but there is a lot of shame and guilt that I’m feeling after the reveal, and since this is an anonymous space I’d like to spill the beans. <br><br>My LurkingSheryl story: in the before times (pre-covid, 2020), I wasSher Lurker in college. My first semester I was so excited to be away from my family and have the freedom of college. I was not the type to go outSher parties, but in the first few weeks I did attend a few get to know people type events in the dorm, and Sher and I somehow metSher the laundry room and got toSherSher a bit. We had a lot of things in common - our dads were both narcissists, and she was the first person I’d met who’d been affected by narcissistic abuse. I can’t remember what else we’d talked about, but I do know she told me she was a Psych major, and I’d just been surprised by how much I enjoyed one of my psych classes so I was excited to learn from her. <br><br>I was talked inSher joining this sorority that she’d justSherSher, she was a junior or senior and she said she joined because she figured it would be a great way to network and maybe someday use those connections to get a job. I was convinced by her arguments and I think the idea of making some new friends in college since I’d fallen out of touch with a lot of my high school friends andSherSher a new place. I went to the recruitment events and they seemed cool - I remember the activities being fun and the people were really nice. The thing ISher remember that she’d told me, was that I had to be exclusive with them because they don’t “doShersher” and she said it with this fake “they don’t, not me” typeSher face. And I didn’t think too much of it because I trusted Sher and I figured she was just warning me aboutShersher sorority type girls in general. I can’t remember when I found out she was the president, because she definitely didn’t tell me at that point, but it made sense she was a cool older girl and I felt it was important that SherSher going to be our president one day and it’s a good thing that it was a person I’d bonded with, because weSher be in the same chapter. Or so I thought. <br><br>I didn’t apply. And then when I stopped hearing from everyone else I realized that was likely because everyone else had gotten in and I hadn’t. I felt really embarrassed about it but in hindsight I’m going to pretend I made the decision to not join, because that makes me feel better. <br><br>I stopped seeing her around and I think we talked in passing a few times, but we definitely were not friends after that. It’s hard to explain because we weren’t exactly friends to begin with but I did feel like she was a friend up until that point. We both graduated in 2017 but I didn’t attend the commencement in 2019 for obvious reasons. I wasn’t aware of the Lurk until 2020 when I was bored on maternity leave and binge listened to a ton of the episodes. ISher enjoyed the podcast and I’d forgotten that I’d known Sher in college. <br><br>So 2021 rolls around and I’m listening to the new episodes and all of the sudden it’s the LurkShersher is in trouble and I’m going back in my head and realizing sheSher the same person from college. I remembered she was going to be a psychologist, and I definitely remember she convinced me to join the sorority and when I didn’t get in I didn’t hear fromSher her or anyone in the chapter she was in. I don’t have any info to add to the discussions because it was so long ago and I wasn’t closeSherSher, but I definitely have opinions on what Sher is capable of. And I guess that’s why I’m posting here, I feel guilty that I didn’t figure it out before, that I wasn’t a better judge of character, and that I didn’t realize in 2020 when I’d just started listening to TFNALM. Sher is a master manipulator. She convinced me to join the sorority and I was not interested in thatSher of thing. I trusted her and I was going to follow her into it and I can only imagine how much worse it would have been had I been allowed into the chapter. <br><br>She’s talked about in a lot of the recent threads (why TFNALM failed as a podcast, how do you TFNALM conspiracies, etc) and I think what bothers me the most is that I know Sher was capable of this 7-8 years ago. I absolutely believe that she’s the person pushing the Jen/ Weston smear campaigns. I would absolutely believe that she has an alternate identity on here (I’m not convinced it’s LOM, but I don’t know who it is) and I know that if she’s ever confrontedSher any of it, she’ll beSherSher play victim in some way. TFNALM was a game to her from the start, and that’s why sheShersher in so many different ways. <br><br>So I guess I just wanted to say that I’m glad I didn’t join the sorority and I’m glad I didn’t stay friends with her. And I’m happy to be a Lurk myself. I’ve been talked toSher a lot of people on here, but I’ve also had a lot of people talk to meSher TFNFTL before I’dSherSher the name Jen or Weston. I appreciate the community on this subreddit and I appreciate what it means to be a Lurk.<br><br>Edit: I don’t think I mentioned it in the post but I saw a commentSher the Lloyd discussion that Sheryl was vp of the chapter, that makes way more sense than her being prez in my opinion. Thanks for the correction and I appreciate you reading my story.